Saturday, January 12, 2008

How Do You Tell Them Apart?

People often confuse Courtney and Chloe - as they are identical twins.




I have seldom confused the two - as I have come to see the differences in their personalities, their posture, the way they walk or carry themselves, their voices, their laughs and their facial expressions.



Every so often, I will, for a moment, be unable to determine which is which if the one I am looking at is sitting very still and not making any expression with her face or moving her body or hands. Or if they are asleep. When they are still - they even look the same to me.



In pictures, when they were babies especially, many people are unable to tell them apart and this is even true of their father and close family members. Some pictures that I failed to make note on the backside - I too, can not sometimes tell. The girls, to this day, are not able to tell who is who in most photos - even current photos. If they are able to tell, it is usually by looking at the clothes or the location the picture is taken - not by actually looking at their own faces.

This is a little crazy - right?



Most of their friends are able to tell them apart - all of their close friends have no problem. Most little children figure it out rather quickly. When Little Billy was small, he had difficulty telling them apart and so he just called them The Courtneys.





Over Christmas, Courtney was telling the story of a little boy that told her recently, "I can tell you two apart, because you are the one with the man voice and the fat head."























On the upside ... that's sometimes how I tell them apart too (tee hee).










(*note: Courtney has a raspy, deeper voice - than Chloe. She has nodules on her vocal cords that - through therapy of no-talking for periods at a time - would get better or deteriorate. She will always have a deeper - raspy voice, as she would never be able to not-talk for any length of time. This is another way I tell them apart - Courtney talks ALL THE TIME. And ... she was born with a rounder head and Chloe a more oval shaped head - hence the "fat head" reference*)

70 comments:

Brittany said...

wow. For some reason I didn't realize the girls were twins. BRAVO mama! I always applaud parents of twins. I can barely handle two that are 20 months apart; I can't imagine two of the same age at the same time. Amazing.

I love the "fat head" comment, btw. Kids are so innocent. Bigger head= more brains= really smart! ;)

Amy said...

Your girls are beautiful.
Those baby pictures are adorable.

I recognized your fabulous blog on my recent post, come check it out.
Your #1!!!

Andrea said...

You're making me want to have twins SO bad! hehe :) Honestly...I'd love to have twins, but no such luck - yet! They really do look a LOT LOT LOT alike though - and I love that picture of the 2 of them sleeping as babies - that is SOOOO precious!

angie said...

As a fellow mom of identical twins, I really enjoyed this post. I can always tell my boys apart, too, but going back to look at baby pictures I some times can't tell anymore. I'm really interested in how you were treated while you were pregnant, as well. Didn't you tell me that your girls shared the same placenta and amniotic sac, like mine? How many weeks were they when they were born? Did they have knots in their cords?, etc.

Your girls look like so much fun!

forgetfulone said...

Thanks for sharing all the beautiful photos! Mine were boy/girl twins, and I still found that people had trouble telling them apart in photos when they were little.

I love the way you showed them from babies up to the teen years. They have subtle differenes, even without the talking!

tommie said...

They look like so much fun!

When a friend of mine had triplets, I suggested to her (jokingly) that she paint their toes red, white and blue depending on their birth order. She did that for almost a year! I was totally joking. But it took her almost that long to tell them apart!

Lizzy in the Burbs said...

Wow! Kellan, you and the Cowboy must be so proud of those two beautiful girls! They were pretty even when they were infants (and no one would ever mistake them for a man with a fat head!). I find that I have the same problem with my boys (and they aren't twins) when I look at photos when they were babies and little. My youngest looks so much like my oldest did, but I didn't realize it at the time. Strange!

Cathy said...

Amazing! They're beautiful girls, and that sleeping-baby photo -- *oof*

(made my ovaries twitch wildly!)

Cheeky said...

my MIL is an identical twin. When dating the man at first I couldn't tell them apart ....now its like night and day

La La said...

I. LOVE. THIS. LOVE. IT.

As a twin (fraternal), I can relate to the closeness, the intimacy, the connection. WOW. They are beautiful!

linds said...

They are gorgeous! How fun to see how much they have grown up. You are lucky!

painted maypole said...

i had nodes in high school, too, and am still prone to losing my voice if I'm not careful and I am also very talkative.

your girls are so beautiful!

frog ponds rock... said...

The baby photos were adorable... I especially liked the one where they are asleep all snuggled together..

cheers kim..

baby~amore' said...

Kellan - your girls are still just as gorgeous but what adorable babies - and so identical.

My twin boys are not identical and people ask me how I tell them apart and the kids say things like he is the heavy one (j) and he has a skinny head (S) too LOL.
*sigh* they forget who is who too

Pam said...

That is funny! I don't think I could stop talking either! When I lose my voice- I know I should rest it and not talk- but, no, I keep on talking! I even talk to much in my blog....or comments ;)

LaShawn said...

The third picture in the post ( the one where one of them is eating the other's nose) almost made me cry. SOOOOOO sweet.

Gorgeous girls!

Dawn said...

I love the pictures. This was an interesting post- I had some good friends when I was growing up who were identical twins and I told them apart by their personalities and body language also. Your girls are beautiful.

Jodi said...

they are beautiful. what a journey you've had! thanks for sharing all of it with us.

jennwa said...

What beautiful girls they are. It seems as they get older, they look more different. As little ones it is hard to tell them apart, but in the basketball pictures you can definitely see the differences.

pb&j in a bowl said...

Your girls are beautiful. I especially liked seeing the baby pictures. I have a friend with twins, and the only way I can tell them apart is that one sucks her thumb and the other doesn't.

Summer said...

Oh I love those precious baby pictures. I always wanted identical twin girls.

wheelsonthebus said...

The are really beautiful.

girlymom said...

These pictures are amazing! I love the black and white where they are sleeping practically on top of each other. My cousins always wore different hair ties. I could usually tell them apart, but not when playing basketball, I think they tried to mess with me because I would be on a team with one and not the other and get blamed for all the other teams points when I would pass to the wrong twin. Oops!

Karen said...

Kellan, you've got some beautiful kids! I love the picture of the two as babies sleeping face to face.

Bren said...

Kellan, your girls are beautiful! That picture of them sleeping face to face makes me want to pinch those adorable cheeks.

Beth said...

Your girls are beautiful! And seeing those adorable baby pictures makes me want to have another one...stop it!!

Karen MEG said...

Kellan, what absolutely gorgeous shots of your twins as babies! Treasures, for sure, would almost make my ovaries ache, almost!
Your daughters are so beautiful, big head/oval head notwithstanding. I've always thought raspy voices are mysterious and sexy, so look out boys!

Joanna said...

Oh the stories we could tell on the 'joys of twins'. Too cute on the pictures.

I've always been able to tell my boys apart. I look at old pictures and I have to really look at the ones I didn't mark. I have a few that no one can tell.

Melissa said...

A man voice and a fat head, OUCH! I don't think I would be avle to tell them apart either. Either way, they are both beautiful girls!!

LunaNik said...

i'm jealous of your daughter's raspy voice. my sister always had a raspy voice...i think it's awesome, very demi moore, u know

Hetha said...

Kellan, they're beautiful girls! All of your children are, they have those gorgeous brown eyes. I don't have any earthly idea how anyone manages with twins though!

Sniz said...

I've always been fascinated with identical twins, wondering if they finish each other's thoughts, if they almost share a brain. But the thing I've always thought would be the neatest is seeing how you look from all angles instead of just what you see in the mirror because yes, I'm that shallow.

These pictures are so cute and your daughters are soooo beautiful!

Suz said...

My boys are identical twins so I found this post fascinating. I have no difficulty telling Hen-bug and Ty-baby apart, but it is hard for people who don't know them well.

Holly said...

They're beautiful Kellan. What a fun post!

Janet said...

That black and white picture of them sleeping is divine.

Jodi said...

I love the pictures! I think it's really interesting that they can't tell each other apart in pictures...wow

kim-d said...

As babies as well as now, absolutely gorgeous! I, too, like the raspy voice sound. Even though my twin grandsons are fraternal, it still took me a very long time to tell them apart. Now that they're 8, I can't imagine that I ever DIDN'T, because they are so different. I LOVE twins; they are so interesting. My boys are like night and day, but there are certain things that bring them together like magnets and, at those times, it's almost like there's no one else in the world. Twins, singles, male, female--your kids are gorgeous!

Amy said...

We have identical twins next door and the only way I can tell them apart is that one doesn't pull her pony tail all the way through. If she ever starts fixing her hair properly I'm doomed!
My oldest girls are 18 months apart and I have a very hard time telling their baby photos apart since they look so similiar and wore pretty much all the same clothes. I usually have to see if there is a toddler toy in the background. But they have been several times where I sent the wrong pic in for someone's school project!

My Goodness said...

We had twins, not even identical, in our class for TWO years...and I still can't tell them apart!!

I am not good with that kind of thing...the husband, pro.

Your girls are beautiful...and I LOVE the fat baby pictures! My babies were chunks!

Cyn said...

Your DD's area beautiful - I absolutely adore the sleeping picture of the two of them - so very sweet. I hope you have that framed somewhere in your home.

And I like what you've done with your blog - the colors and designs are so fun! I haven't visited in a while so it was a nice delight.

Shannon said...

I found your blog through your post on Angie's. I am also a mother to amniotic twins. My girls and Angie's boys were born a day apart and she and I have been friends since our pregnancy. Your girls are beautiful and I get such a kick out of hearing about ID twins as they get older. They are true miracles! So good to find you!

Are You Serious! said...

I love all the pictures. I enjoyed reading your story. The only way that I can tell my sister's identical twins apart is for her or one of her kids to tell me. And then I'll remeber for the rest of the day unless their clothes change. :) 36 weeks, way to go in the land of twins that's a great...

Bia said...

Your daughters are just lovely; you must be very proud of them. I especially like the B/W photo...do you have it framed and hanging somewhere?

God bless!

Don Mills Diva said...

They are both absolutely beautiful - you sound so proud of them (and rightfully so).

joan said...

Kellan,
They are beautiful and I know I wouldn't be able to tell them apart. I once read that twins have kind of a six sense with each other. You and your hubby must be so proud of them. Hope you are having a great weekend!

Kelly said...

Those baby pictures are some of the most beautiful images I have seen in awhile. Thanks for having some an inspiring site.

Leah said...

haven't read all the other comments (goodness, you gets lots!), but I was going to comment that in the baby pics, it looked like one of them had a rounder head/face, and my vote is that courtney is the one in the first of the two basketball pics. am I right?? LOL

I've had several sets of twin friends and I always thought it was easy to tell them apart.

Mary said...

oh my goodness those pictures are ADORABLE!!! The one of them sleeping when babies.......seriously precious!
Have they every pulled any crazy stunts in school or anything like switching classes for a day?

Kami said...

I love this post. I always wondered if as a mother you could easily tell them aprart.

I think identical twins are one of the neatest things!

They are beautiful just like their Momma!

:-)

Beth said...

OMG! they are so beautiful!!!! I love the picture of them sleeping....too cute.

mrs. parker said...

TWIN GIRLS, I ALWAYS wanted twin girls. My hubby always wanted twin boys, I got a little closer at least. ;)

Kathryn said...

Oh those pictures are just too much! Such beautiful girls! And I love that they can't even tell who is who in the pics. That is so funny!
Those girls really are gorgeous! Wow!

Laura said...

This post is so fascinating. I look forward to reading more on your blog. Your girls are so pretty! One of my girls had a flatter head but we helmeted it and so it not anymore. So interesting!

Angela said...

two special girls

Shellie said...

I relate completely. My boys move around so much, sometimes by the time I turn to the one over there, he left and the other one took his place and I call him the wrong name then look at him and say, Oh, sorry! They have different voices too, I can tell when I hear them from far away who is who. And one has a "fatter face". When they were really little, for a while they both called each other the same name- Thing 1 is Diego. I asked Thing 2 if he was Diego, then who was his brother? without skipping a beat, he said, "DiegoDidIt".

bermudabluez said...

Great pics of your beautiful twins!! I worked with a guy who was an identical triplet...and let me tell you...it was seriously like seeing THREE of him...I could NOT tell them apart. No way!

EC said...

They sure are gorgeous!!

But being a twin myself I can already seem differences in them - it's a knack ;)

carrie said...

My nieces are identical, and I think as they've gotten older and devolped their own "style" it is easier to tell them apart!

There is something so special about twins though, you are lucky to have those beautiful girls!

OHmommy said...

OMG... now that is funny!

The Stevens Family said...

What a nice post until you got to the fat head and man voice part. That wasn't very nice...poor Courtney. I do love raspy voices though. My cousin has a very raspy voice and we always make her talk because it is so cool and she hates us for it. Anyways, they are gorgeous now and then. The sleeping pics makes me want another one though.

Jen said...

Beautiful girls!

Patti said...

OMG did she laugh about it or get mad? I'm betting she laughed. Too funny. I always thought i'd love to have twins then I had one and thought "How in the World could I handle two?"

bren j. said...

I always thought it might be neat to have a twin - but just for a week or so - to see what kind of mischief we could create....
Your beautiful babies have morphed into beautiful young ladies....with gorgeous hair!!

Mo said...

Your girls are so beautiful! Just looking at baby pictures makes my fallopian tubes ache nowadays :) I's a good thing their heads and voices are a little different, otherwise they could totally switch places and play tricks on people...but they'd never do that, right? lol

Nicki said...

They are both beautiful girls, but I understand why people have a hard time telling them apart.

Becky said...

Those pictures were PRECIOUS! I love the black and white where they are sleeping close like they did in the womb.

Beautiful girls you have, Kellan...but I believe that mean, (rude) boy had it all wrong...it's not a man voice...but rather a SULTRY voice...and one day, some handsome, gallant young gentleman is gonna find that voice to be quite...alluring. =) (Of course, that won't be until she's at least 25, so no worries, mom.)

JCK said...

These pictures killed me. Especially, especially the two as babies asleep face to face. And the two in the hammock.

Many famous actresses have had deep, raspy voices. And big heads are common on actors, too. And your girls perform all the time at home, right? ;)

kristi said...

I've noticed that with a lot of twins, one has a rounder face than the other. They are beautiful!

Praise and Coffee said...

They are beautiful! From birth to now! :)

Your heart attack story was hysterical!

Sue

Rachel said...

The b&w; of them sleeping is absolutely gorgeous! I hope you have that framed somewhere and the one of them in the hammock, oh my quaking ovaries! Adorable!
I love your blog and all your stories Kellan, you are a true gem for all of us!

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