Monday, January 21, 2008

It Might Be Time For An Intervention

My kids often have their friends over at our house.

One day, not too long ago, there were six of the girls' basketball friends over and they were all up in Courtney and Chloe's bedroom.

I walked by.

I stuck my head in to say hello.

When I walk in, I see ... one girl on Courtney's bed, two girls on Chloe's bed, two girls on the futon, one girl each sitting in the desk chairs, one girl on the floor and one sprawled out in the recliner near the closet. Some had their shoes off, others had pillows they were clutching, one seemed to actually be sleeping, and ... at least 4 of them had phones in their hands and were busy - like little beavers - text, text, texting away - furiously - as if, whatever they were saying in these text messages were the most interesting and most important information ever to be sent over the telegraph wires (or whatever it's called) - EVER!! Texting - like crazy - at least 4 of these girls.

I saw this craziness and asked, "What are you all doing?"

And pretty much all of them answered, in unison, "Nothin'."

I then asked if anyone needed anything and they answered that they were fine - with looks on most of their faces that indicated that they wanted me to leave.

I put my hand on the door to go and then turned back and asked, "By the way, who are you all talking to?" looking into the eyes of one of my daughters.

And 3 of the girls (including one of my own), looked up quickly in my direction and said, "Each other." And then all --- went immediately back to texting once again.

THEY. WERE. TEXTING. EACH. OTHER!!!!

They were in the very same room!!

They weren't more than 2 feet from each other!

And ... they found this to be perfectly normal!

WHAT IS WRONG WITH THIS CRAZY PICTURE?


On the upside ... This is CRAZINESS - this texting thing! Have you ever seen it in action? Have you ever been around one of these teenagers when they perform this TEXTING? I think it might just be possible that they will soon eliminate talking altogether - they might just get to where they only ever use their computers or the texting on their phones and then they will never actually have to see any of their friends face to face or ever speak a single verbal word to any of them.

Hummmm ... maybe I need to learn this texting thing - start communicating non-verbally with my teenage daughters! Holy What-Took-Me-So-Long-To-See-The-Potential Batman ... Now that there's a brilliant idea!

96 comments:

multipleblessings said...

*lol* ... We couldn't do that with our phone, as we're dinged 15 cents a text, for both sending and receiving!

Julie

LunaNik said...

LOL I know texting is the THING to do and that it has taken the place of talking on the phone...but, I had no idea texting has taken the place of basic face to face conversation!!!! SOOO FUNNY!!!!

Zoe said...

my sons best friend lived with us for a while and he is now in virginia. he sends me e-mail in text code and i have no clue what he is saying!!!

baby~amore' said...

An a HA ' moment indeed super mom ... brilliant I might try it>they can't say they didn't hear you either.

justabeachkat said...

Yep, I've seen them do it and it amazes me how fast they can type!

What next?!

Hugs!
Kat

La La said...

On Friday, one of my students sent me a text message during class while she was sitting a few feet away from where I was standing! What's that about???

I know. I know. How'd she get my number? What's going on in my classroom? LOL!

It's nothing like that. She's the only kid who has my number because she was having a really hard time with her mom and needed to talk. I taught her as a 9th grader and again this year as a senior!

But, really, during class!!! Hee Hee!

Your girls are a hoot!

I'm coming to the Lake, I tell ya!

Angela said...

We saw this in action at youth night for church last week. It was only two of the 10 or 12. But two were sitting next to each other texting one another. It blows me away!

Cathy said...

Amazing, isn't it?

The teenage boy operating the horrific kiddie park ride I was forced onto spent the entire time texting, to the point that I wondered if he would (please, oh please) ever STOP THE RIDE!

Eileen said...

I have seen teens text each other while we are all waiting for the dentist. It was insane! Fingers flying, on these little screens. I don't get it, but boy they sure do.
Your girls are too funny!!
XOXOX

Dawn said...

This is definitely a teenage phenomenon that makes me feel old! I have seen them texting and I can't get over how fast their fingers fly. What a funny story.

forgetfulone said...

I've seen it, too, this strange phenomenon of texting a person you're sitting right next to! It's craziness. But maybe my kids will make it through their teenage years if we only communicate via text. That's a definite upside!

Lizzy in the Burbs said...

Hi, Kellan!

Just catching up, had a very busy weekend, not at all like your relaxing one, I'm glad you got a chance to get away for awhile. What an absolutely beautiful place you have, and, yes,..if that's an invitation, I'd love to join you there! :) 54 degrees sounds like a heat wave to me right about now, it's positively freezing here in Chicago! The wind chill is -26, so there will be no sitting on the deck for me!

Your daughters and their friends sound so cute, the stories you tell about them remind me so much of my teenage nieces. They all have those phones tightly clenched in their hands for dear life, it's just crazy isn't it? I don't get why you'd want to sit and type to someone when they're sitting right next to you, it escapes me!

Well, I'm off to bed, just wanted to say "hi". Talk to you soon!

Lizzy

Are You Serious! said...

That doesn't even sound like fun to me. THere's nothing like a face to face conversation at least with friends. Now if I had to deliver bad new's then a text is the ONLY way to go! :)

Family Adventure said...

It's all they do now. My boy and his cousin will sit next to each other, on each their laptop, playing the same game, and WRITING each other, rather than talking. I crack up every time I see it (plus I chalk it up to good spelling practice - though I know I'm kidding myself there).

Have a good Monday!

Heidi

Pam in Colorado said...

I'm sure the extra time it took to realize the potential is due to a loss of brain cells that is a result of eating Twinkies! ;)

My daughter (19) is a texting queen. She can text faster than she can talk and that, my friend is an amazing feat.

I have decided that if it is sent via my cell phone, it really is not an important message. I am definitely NOT addicted to a cell phone. I'd rather use a real phone or simply not talk. My daughter gets her talking ability from me, so... I'm just baffled where she got her texting genes from.

Brother Raphy said...

Texting has much taken place to young teenagers/youth...Funny storry about texting!

frog ponds rock... said...

hehehehe Welcome to the teen world..

We have one cent txts here.. My son uses $20 a week just texting.. wow that is 1200 txts..

cheers kim xx

kim-d said...

I have found texting at work to be quite handy since my BFF is in Colorado and I'm in Minnesota and, if I don't want my whole office to hear what's said on the phone, that's the way to go. When you don't have enough to say for a whole e-mail, but there is something that needs to be said! I don't understand the texting someone right in the same room, though, but I guess every generation has its thing that the old folks aren't meant to understand--HAHA! I just hope you have the 9.99/month-unlimited-texting option :)!!!

Mary said...

That is really funny!
I think you should text them just to see their reaction! ha!

Jen said...

It makes me sad that emailing and texting has seemed to take over having an actual conversation. I have to admit, I never liked talking on the phone, but I need to get together with friends, not just receive periodic emails!

Toni said...

As my kids are too young to do this, I had no idea that teems would text each other while together. Hmmn. Seems strange. At least they're not tying up your land lines!

Susan said...

That is too funny. They were in the same room texting each other just blows my mind. Remmeber my girls aren't that old yet so I ahven't delt with any of this. Thanks for preparing me.

Rima said...

I agree - it's crazy, but at least they are practicing their typing SKILLZ ;)

Brittany said...

hmm yes, odd indeed! haha. Do teenagers really EVER make sense?

Lisa said...

That's INSANE! ;o)

The cartoon is hysterical!

Jodi said...

i think you should start texting them. that would really freak them out.

InTheFastLane said...

I text my daughter on occasion. It is the best way to get her out of hibernation :)

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JO-N said...

My kids are far too young for this and my time will come and when it comes, it will be something else besides texting each other in the same room. So, you can start texting your kids instead of writing them notes when you don't feel like talking to them.

By the way, I read your letter (previous post) and you have 108 comments!!! That should answer your doubts, ya? I like what you are writing too and I think whatever we write, we got to use our own style and Kellan, just be YOU cos you can't please everybody. Don't worry, including me, you have pleased 109 readers.

Amanda said...

Its not only teenagers who text like crazy. My husband is constantly texting....supposedly for work. But sometimes, I find out he's chatting with his friends too!

OHmommy said...

Maybe they were just practicing? Yes? Teenagers... are so funny.

Karen said...

I have strong suspicions that they're talking about things that they dont' want adults to know about. Personally I don't trust the whole texting thing. But that's just me.

pb&j in a bowl said...

The worst is when you see them texting while driving. Scares me to death! There is a billboard in Nashville that says "DNT TXT & DRV" If they would only look up from their texting and see it, it would be great.

Kelly said...

Texting...hmmm, why didn't I think of that. I'll just send my students their reading lessons via text. All my rowdy middle school lovelies may actually learn something, then. Sigh.
I wonder what my son and daughter will be doing with technology by the time they are teens?

Don Mills Diva said...

That's crazy! I didn't know it was that bad yet - shudder to think what he'll be doing when my son is a teenager!

Courtney said...

My sister is exactly like your daughters! I can't figure out what the fascination is. I text when I don't really want to talk to the person, but I have something to ask them. I always pray they just text back and don't call...lol.

Kami said...

I have heard of this texting thing but have you ever tried it?

It's paiful! No keyboard, only the phone keys... oh and there is that whole other language thing.

Maybe, they have forgotten English and not only speak text?

:-)

Shannon said...

Even though I think I am technically in the age range of this texting revolution, I missed it all together. I have friends who soley communicate via text and I am amazed by it. I think it is just one more way for humans to avoid direct contact with each other. Somedays I think I need a full "fast" from all things technological!!

Melissa said...

Yeah but it's hard to get the "I'm the mama and you will do as I say" tone across in a text message. Unless you use a lot of frowny faces...

A Mom Two Boys said...

I know! It's crazy. My sister and I text each other pictures of our kids, but aside from that, we'd much rather talk on the phone (she lives across the country). My SIL, though (who's 26!) CONSTANTLY text's her friends, boyfriend, everyone. My MIL just stopped paying her cell phone bill (through the business) so when I was entering it into the system I looked it over last month. $36.00 in text charges! Just texting! It's insane! Can people not speak to each other anymore?

onthegomom said...

Seen it??? I live it everyday! My two teenage boys and my teenage step-son TEXT. NON. STOP! I have had to learn the tools of the trade if I want to communicate with them when they are not at home. I have to admit, I have text them while I am upstairs and they are downstairs to just save a few minutes. OMG, I have become one of them... HELP!

Bavani said...

Oooppss - I'm far from being a teenager but I used to be a texting maniac too when I was in Singapore. I was super fast and thought I could win any texting competition. BUT I never did text anyone in the same room UNLESS we were both in a boring staff meeting (I used to be a teacher) and we wanted to gossip about someone else during the meeting hehehehe :)

Sheri said...

That would drive me crazy! My niece would do it at the dinner table all the time. I couldn't stand it. Times sure have changed haven't they? lol

Mo said...

Kids seem to text each other while in the same room a lot nowadays. My mom sent her first text message a few days ago and was telling me how weird it was. I don't have a cell, but when I did, I still didn't like to text. It drove me nuts to have to abbreviate words and use numbers in the middle of some of them...or to use single letters to convey words like "r u here?" & "y not?" It's like instant messaging abbreviations were 7-8 years ago, but even more pared down. It's hard to keep up with what it all stands for.

Cheeky said...

That very same scenario could have been in my house!

HRH said...

I was recently given a text tutorial by a friend and I have to say it is a bit addictive because you can get information to a person without "bothering" them with a phone call. I will have to say that most of the people I text are NOT IN THE SAME ROOM with me! That is pretty funny.

Joanna said...

Oh my word! They were texting each other?? Makes me shudder. We are waay behind in the techno world. Sigh.

Karen MEG said...

That is hilarious Kellan, somehow I could sort of see that coming, as the way you described it sounded quiet in there, and you know that can't be right with all those teen girls in one room!
I think texting is quite addictive, though. Hubs is on his Blackberry a lot, and I don't think I'd want to go there myself (as they say "Crackberry", and I'm an addictive personality.
At least they're communicating, let me know how your experiment goes, that would be funny to have you texting your girls. I can just see it.
Have a great Monday, Sweets!

Kathryn said...

That is too funny! Texting each other! What the? I don't get it. heh heh

Stacie said...

omygoodness, seriously????

YIKES...I have seen people text, mad craziness there...I don't think my thumb can move that fast!

jen said...

good, good lord.

Jessie said...

It seriously takes me like 10 minutes to write 1 TEXT - these kids nowadays :)

One Scrappy Gal said...

We don't have cell phones or pages for text msging... but I e-mail my husband even when he's in the next room. This annoys him. :)

Leah said...

well, that does seem to go along with your daughter calling you on her phone from downstairs that one day instead of walking up the stairs to talk to you in person! LOL

Mango Marie said...

I hate text messaging. It could be because I totally suck at it!

Great post!

girlymom said...

I am just not that coordinated to be a good texter. I don't even like to fill in the address book on the phone- yeah I'm pretty sad. My parents are avid walkie talkers with their phone. My hubby and I couldn't stand it, so we ended up switching companies when our plan was up so that would actually call us, not Beep, wah wah wah wah, screech, wha wha screech beep. Yeha like we know what they said, just call!! I don't think I would be a very cool teenager if I was a teen now. I like to talk on the phone too much.

Nicki said...

What the?? That's just weird. My husband and I instant message each other from separate rooms in our house, but that's normally only to send photos or links. We generally try to speak when we're in the same room. Teenagers are strange creatures, aren't they?

bren j. said...

I had a feeling from the start that the story was going to end that way. Good grief!
I sometimes see kids walking through the mall texting as they go...and I sometimes ponder what would happen if I suddenly jumped in front of one of them and yelled BOO! But then I realize they're so busy concentrating on NOT ACTUALLY TALKING that they'd probably just walk right around me, unphased. Really, I thought phones were meant for TALKING on???

Holly said...

Too funny!

We haven't hit the teenager stage yet, but my husband I text each other thoughout the day.

Andrea said...

I have seen texters in action -- and it is almost scary!! I myself, wouldn't know how!!!

And to do it while sitting all in the SAME ROOM?!? Wow!! Did they all have larangitis or something?? :)

Heather said...

I think anyone close to college age should immediately decide to be a doctor specializing in reversing the affects of over texting. My niece got a cell phone for her 13th birthday with one rule - no using while at school. Her parents took the phone away that very night after she got home from school and they discovered over 200 texts in one day while at school.

Natalie said...

Oh wow! I text with my husband, but not when I'm sitting right there in the same room as him. That's too dang funny! LOL! I don't think I've ever understood teenagers, not even when I was one.

Smitty76 said...

I had to giggle becuz...before the end of your post...I KNEW YOU WERE GOING TO SAY THEY WERE TEXTING EACH OTHER! LOL How do I know, you may ask? I am a text-a-holic. Yes, at 31 years old, but I am not as bad as your teens. However,I have a FRIEND who will text me when she is in the room with me if she doesn't want other people to know...it drives me INSANE! I wanna say, "Hey just pull me aside and whisper it if it's so dang important!" LOL

Wonderful World of Weiners said...

Now that CJ is in the Air Force we have started to embrace the whole text message craze. He can't always talk but he can usually manage to send or answer a quick text.

I have to say GOD BLESS TECHNOLOGY!!!

Hallie

carrie said...

I don't get it either, but it seems to be common practice.

Just think of the carpal tunnel syndrome they are going to have in their thumbs by the time they are 25!

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Queeny said...

That's must be how they learn to do it so fast -- these "texting huddles." Very funny.

Victoria said...

God bless texting. I love it. My coworkers and I will sit next to each other in meetings and text each other. =)

Valarie said...

Hmmmmm...no yippity teenage talking....? That doesn't sound like such a horrible idea to me. :)

Nicki said...

That may improve the lines of communication--but I'd have to learn how to text message first. I know I'm a big technical idiot!

familymclean said...

Whoot, you are amazing with your re-telling of the story! Too funny!!! I think I am texting inept, and I get razed from my texty friends, I guess it is just cause I like to blab:)

kimmy said...

When I was in Italy last year, the people text so fast you can barely see their fingers moving!

Kimmy

Amy said...

I think texting is going to be the thing that makes the young hip kids realize that I'm old, because I don't do it.

Just like how my parents are from the prehistoric era because they have dial-up internet.

Yes, I must learn how to text, and choose texting over any other form of communication.

katystuff said...

My aunt texts her kids, she says it is the only way to catch them for sure. I use IM alllll the time even to people sitting next to me but usually with snarky commentary on whats going on in the meeting we are both in.

Pam said...

I don't get it- the texting thing. I don't understand it at all. If you have something to say- call and say it. If the person can't talk - leave a message. I just don't understand...if you figure it out, let me know!

Amy said...

That is really funny...I am technologically challenged so "texting" is a pretty foreign concept to me, my 12 year old son however, has had his life ruined, --RUINED!!-- due to "that woman" (aka me) not providing him with a cell phone so he can "text" his friends at school. I mean lord forbid he actually pay attention to what the teacher is saying.

Anna said...

Crazy kids! Maybe they were really texting boys...and that was just a cover answer! ;-)

Happy Days said...

It makes me feel so old!
A teenage girl from our church text messaged me because she had taken a picture of one of the kids for something. I can not begin to tell you how long it took me to reply to her!!!

Angie said...

As HIP as I try to continue to be. I DON'T GET TEXTING! I JUST DON'T. I TOTALLY COULD get it if they were emailing instead of texting though. LOL
KEEP BELIEVING

Ness said...

I witnessed this phenomenon with my 3 children during the holidays. They were actually making comments about me while texting each other in the same room as where I was sitting!
Thank God they have unlimited texting! I told them I was honored they chose to wear their fingers out texting about me! lol

Ness

Sniz said...

No Way! Texting each other? That is to funny to be true. Or maybe funny isn't the right word! :-)

joan said...

That is funny and I see that more and more---I don't get it though. On Christmas Day we had a guy here who texted the whole time he was at our home and he is almost 50 yrs. old. I'm thinking who in the world could he be texting like that all day. Oh well, brave new world.............

Sharon said...

YES! What took you so long? THink of the aggravation that would save us. No more repeating ourselves. No more having to look at rolling eyes or aggravation at begin disturbed. It would keep things short and sweet.

LaskiGal said...

Yeah, my sisters were texting each other. One was in the front seat the other in the back. I was driving . . .

Where am I?

JCK said...

You might be on to something. Although I think you have to be a teenager to be able to find it fun texting each other in the same room.

Julie Pippert said...

UGH I have this thing about commenting after 10 or 15 or so, but after 80? UGH

But I will anyway because when I opened this up YESTERDAY there weren't any comments yet and I had wanted to say OMS, that is WILD, I don't think I cold bite my tongue!

Modern kids!

Patti said...

I am all for texting but in the same room????? Now if you are trying to be covert, okay but... oh well. I'm an old fogey so i'm not supposed to understand! LOL

Bren said...

Hubby and I text when he's in meetings. If he ever starts doing it while I'm in the same room, he's had it!

~Robin said...

I just read this post to my 15 yo daughter-who said-yeah, so whats weird about that? lol
oh, if ya cant beat 'em, might wanna think about joining 'em!
Blessings!!

Jen said...

I have a confession to make. I am a rabid texter myself. I know I have a problem but I can quit anytime. LOL

Leanne said...

When we lived in the UK, they had a program called, Teach ur Mum 2txt. My daughter tried to help me but since my friends didn't do it I didn't use it much either. Still it's a handy skill! No one over thirty uses text messaging up here....

jamie said...

I accidentally stumbled across your blog through that of my friend, and I have to say, this blog has had me laughing out loud so many times that my roommate isn't sure what to think--I'm passing the link on to her! :) Thanks for the entertainment!

The Boyds Family said...

lol! I think you've come up with a novel idea!! You think if we text them to clean their rooms it will actually happen??

Kylie in Warsaw said...

LOL! I often text my daughter. It's cheaper than calling her and I'm super cheap:)! I don't text her when I'm in the same room with her, but sometimes when we're in different rooms in the house. Does that make me weird? I do the same thing with my husband at boring parties;).

lisa said...

I think you nailed "the upside". While I don't text my kids in the same room I do IM them quite a bit. Oh the things I've learned through IM that they didn't or wouldn't want to say face to face. especially with teenagers, this is a very good thing.

Angela said...

I can't text because I can't see the phone but eveyone does it. I am glad I am not able to get sucked in yet.

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