Wednesday, January 16, 2008

A Letter To My Readers

I have quite a following on my site - right?

Why?

I have had many people comment or e-mail me - over the past 4 months - asking me this very question. Why? How did I do it? Why me?

On one hand, I am a little insulted by this question, as I have dedicate a huge amount of time and creativity into my writing and I would like to think that a percentage of visitors come to my site to read what I have written - hear what I have to say. I'd like to think that they think I am smart and funny and offer entertaining stories and useful information. I like to think that I have earned their respect and therefore they look forward to reading about my children and family and that they feel invested in not only my life, but in my success as a blogger - as well.

I know some of the reasons why I have the following that I have.

I have worked my butt off for 4 months! I have visited thousands of sites. I have left thousands of comments. I have written hundreds of stories and tried very, very hard to make those stories fun and interesting and creative and well written. I have analyzed ways to improve my traffic and even implemented some of those tools. I have tried my very best to fit into this world of Mommy Bloggers and I have done that. I have done everything possible to make friends and make those friends realize how much I need them and how much they mean to me. I have made many, many good friends.

One of the reasons I have so many visitors to my site is because I went out and brought them to me. Many of the friends I have - are ones that I went out and found and the reasons they keep coming back - I believe - is because I continue to support each and every one of those friends. I would be very surprised if any one of my bloggy friends were able to say that this is not true. And, yes, I have some visitors that came across my blog on their own and are now also my friends, but they too would have to say that I am equally as loyal to them by constantly staying in touch and visiting their sites as well.

Everyone of you that has a blog knows just how difficult it is to keep up with a blog. Keep up with posting and visiting other sites. It is nearly impossible to do it every single day. But ... I have tried to do it. I have committed, every single day, to visiting other sites and reading and leaving comments. I visit every single site that leaves me a comment (some days as many as 80 sites). In addition, I visit other sites along the way. In any given day, I can visit 100's of sites. Why do I do this? I do it - to show my loyalty and to encourage loyalty to me. And ... it has been very rewarding.

I think that I have a good site. I think I have a unique format and I have worked very hard to create a positive forum. It is who I am and it works for me because I have tried very hard to build my site on the foundation of strong beliefs. I do not often complain in the normal "ranting" fashion - while I do have many complaints (just like everyone) in my life - just because that is how I have chosen to write on my site. I do complain - but I try to put a funny spin on the story and I do that for several reasons. One, because it often makes for a better story and two, because if I give myself permission to rant - I am afraid I will run crazy ranting all of the time!

I am not perfect - nor do I have perfect kids or do we live a hysterically funny life at my house. I am generally a serious person and yet I have always considered myself to be creative and through my writing I am able to stretch my creative tendencies by writing stories that are funny or touching or stimulating or whatever! I work constantly on my writing techniques to develop new and interesting ways to tell a story. Having this blog has enabled me to see my life (through my writing of these stories) in a different way and see my children and the raising of them - through an entirely new view. I work daily to find a story to write and sometimes I come up with a good story and sometimes I don't. But, I have dedicated a lot of time and energy into finding and documenting these stories for my pleasure and for the pleasure of those that visit my site.

I sometimes feel as though the success I have experienced on my site - creates bad feelings (I won't go into why I say this - but there have been incidents that have occurred). I have never, not even once, used the success of my site to hurt any other blogger. I have tried to do just the opposite by offering many bloggers advise on how I have accomplished my success and been very open to helping anyone that asks. I have always been loyal to every single one of my bloggy friends and invested many hours into getting to know each one individually as best I can. I have always felt embarrassed to post awards I have been given, but feel obliged to recognize those that give me the awards and happy to introduce those individuals to my readers. Awards given from one blogger to another are indeed nice, but they are also a means for bloggers to create traffic to their own sites and I don't have a problem promoting other people's sites and am happy to do that.

I, like everyone, love to receive comments on my posts. I love the feedback and enjoy seeing the ideas or thoughts that something I have written can provoke. I love feeling like I touch people through my stories and my writing. I love telling a good story and love being able to share my children and our lives with all of you. I do not like feeling, though, that any success I have had is in anyway making someone else feel inadequate or unsuccessful. I know very well that there are many bloggers out there that are telling just as many great stories and writing them as well or better than me - that do not have the following I have. I visit many of those bloggers and read those stories. I support those bloggers. I have always searched out bloggers that were hurting for readers, because I know very well how hard it is to create a following and I have made tremendous efforts to find and help those people. I have done this intentionally, as I feel that everyone should be offered the same respect and opportunities as I have enjoyed and I do not hesitate to offer my site and its success as leverage for new or struggling bloggers.

I seldom write my posts "directly" to my audience. I write my stories as if they are "articles" and format my posts in the form of dialog or narritive - I do this on purpose. I am not the sort of blogger that offers a run-down of my daily events or intricate daily details about my children or myslef. I offer some of this information through my stories - but I do not "talk" right to my audience - like I am right now. I have done that on purpose - it is the format or technique I have chosen for my blog. I seldom ever respond to a comment in my comments. I have, on my site, tried to keep a distance between myself and my stories - I do this on purpose. I have attempted to create a site that stands on its own - the stories stand on their own - without my daily moods or personal traits influencing the stories. While I am obviously the one writing the stories and my picture is right there on the front page - I write my posts as a story that offers just a "glimpse" into our lives and who we are - who I am. I do this intentionally and believe that this is part of the reason that people may feel like they really don't know me.

My goal in blogging is to continue to write my stories. To continue to create even more of a following and I won't apologize for that. I want to continue to make friends and support as many people as I can possibly support. I want to only feel that my contribution is positive.

I know there are those people that - no matter what I say or what any of us do - will look for reasons to use my success against me. I can only say that I enjoy the success because I have worked very hard for it. I will continue to work hard for it - as long as I feel it is positive for me.

I began this post - because I was frustrated. I do not want to feel frustrated at anytime - having this blog - that has been such a gift in my life. I felt it was necessary to answer these questions and to also describe some of the feelings I have been experiencing.

I hope I have cleared up any illusions or assumptions that were in question. I hope I have explained adequately that I feel fortunate and also believe that the loyalty I have created stems from the loyalty I offer. I hope I have proven - over the past several months - that I want to be a friendly blogger and will do whatever I can to help other bloggers.

I hope I have your continued support and want to impress that you certainly have mine.

Now ... I am going to go back behind my curtain to continue to write. You know where to find me.

110 comments:

Abbie said...

I always look forward to leaving my bloggy friend Kellans page with a big smile on my face. Writing is a major strength of yours, use it use it use it! And NEVER apologize for it! :)

You are fantastic and you are always a great cheerleader in other bloggers lives! :)

Brittany said...

I read your site because I love you (in a non-scary and non-creepy way, btw!). You are hilarious and so much fun! Plus, like you said, you support your readers by reading their blogs. You always make me feel so good, after you respond about my parenting skills (lack there of) and my kiddos.
Don't apologize for anything, ever. And why would someone ask you how you got so many readers or why you have so many readers? GEESH.

Lisa said...

I think you're awesome! I love how you always put a positive spin on things too!!!

Have a great day - and thanks for always providing a good read :)

Lisa

InTheFastLane said...

As you said, there are always those people who are going to be jealous and use that jealousy to try to bring people down. Now, why anyone would do that to you, especially when you are always looking for the positives, is beyond me. Keep up what you are doing. Obviously there are lots of people who like it :)

katystuff said...

don't worry about anyone else. I would comment more but I feedread, I look forward to your stories daily.

Mary said...

Keep doing what you're doing Kellen!
I like your blog and I am happy that I was able to stumble upon it :)
And Thank you for always leaving a comment on mine :

Veronica said...

You always make me laugh, even though I don't comment often. I read this entire post nodding my head in agreement with you. You shouldn't have to apologise for being funny and witty and nice!

Sue said...

I totally get it. TOTALLY. Traffic and comments don't just magically arrive, unless you get featured in the national press or something, and even then, people won't come back unless they like what you have to say.

Most bloggers who are successful have either been doing it for a while, or they work at it, or they had a bunch of lucky breaks that introduced people to their great writing. The common denominator though, is always good writing that people want to come back and read. Writing something that people want to read. And you do that. Good for you.

Of course, I'm tired and burnt out now, but I totally understand what you've done, because I did it for a while too.

Dawn said...

Keep up the great work, and I do realize that you have put a LOT of work into this fabulous blog. I think of that often when I leave a comment among sometimes 35 + other comments, knowing that you are probably visiting the sites of all these people who love you. I'm thankful for the bloggy friendship we have- you were one of the first people to comment on my blog and I still remember how excited I was to find out someone was actually reading it! Enjoy your success!

girlymom said...

I'm with ya Kellan- through thick and thin, you are always my first visit of the day and last. I don't know why anyone would wish you ill anything, you are always so kind, upbeat and inspiring with everything you write, both on your blog and on others comments. I love to read about you and your family- I haven't been blogging that long compared to some people, but long enough to know you are a very kind, caring and generous person. Generous with your time and talent. Thank you for sharing this with me, for motivating and challenging me to post great things, not just on my blog, but in my life. I admire ya.

Hetha said...

You are successful because of all the reasons you mentioned and you should be enjoying that success since it was hard earned. Don't let the naysayers bring you down! You're terrific and we all know it! Duh!

frog ponds rock... said...

Hey Kellan.. here is a great big Smootch just for you..(((hugs)))..

You make me smile. You write really well!!! Actually woman you are really really funny.. the mental picture of one of your girls sucking up that piece of sandwich like an ole anteater stayed with me for days.. making me chuckle to myself every time I thought about it...

When you commented that my santa photo had made Alexis giddy with excitement.. I was thrilled to bits..

My husband hates the computer and gripes at me constantly about my blogging.. I told him that if I can make a small girl in Texas giddy with excitement, I am doing something right...

So Kellan My Texan Bloggy Friend please keep on doing what you are doing...And those other people are just plain Jealous..

cheers Kim xxx

Hetha said...

Oh, and I forgot to thank you for always leaving such heartfelt and kind words on my blog. I know you mean them and it means a lot to me.

kimmy said...

I love reading your blog Kellan and I am so glad that I "stumbled" across it! I have met so many wonderful and talented people via this blog site!

And, YES, I do watch and I can't wait for it to start again (January 31st)!!!!

Kimmy

kimmy said...

I watch LOST - that is what I mean to say. Didn't mean to keep you guessing :-)

Kimmy

Are You Serious! said...

I love your blog and love it for all the reasons that you posted. I'm always glad to see your up beat, kind words on my blog. :)

Jen said...

Love your blog Kellan! You deserve the readership you have.

Angela said...

You are super
and that is all I am gunna say

MamaGeek said...

If people are asking you how you get so many comments (really, what are they thinking), I think it means you have officially ARRIVED girl!

I know how you feel, somedays blogging becomes a burden and it's then when I know I need to walk away. Less is more. In the meantime, remember, you have ARRIVED! :)

Cheeky said...

If you weren't a wonderfully talented story teller you wouldn't have such a good following - I say keep doing what you are doing and if someone doesn't like it well then they don't have to be here do they??

I for one am proud to call myself a Kellen commenter and I truly appreciate your as well!

joan said...

You know how much I like your blog Kellan and I am so appreciative for the times you have visited me and left such nice comments. Don't take any negative comments to heart and keep doing what you are doing.

BeachMama said...

Interesting post. I would not have thought that people would actually be jealous or wonder why you are so successful.

You are successful because you are a great writer and, like you said, put yourself out there and visited others. I always enjoy stopping by.

Happy Days said...

You are an amazing writer! I love, love, love, your stories and as your blog name says, "the upside" that you always point out in your stories! Keep up the good work! You are inspiring! You rock!!!!

tommie said...

I know I come back time and time again because like in 'real life' friendships, I feel a connection. Whether that connection is a mom thing or that you make me laugh or that things can be going hog wild, you still find something positive about it.

Amy said...

hey, kellan

i too love your blog. you are entertaining and inspiring. i wish you the best and i look forward to your good reads!!! keep up what you are doing, girl!

Andrea said...

And me too...I love your blog too - and your stories never fail to make me laugh...or cry. :) And I am one of those blogging friends that you searched out and oh yes, I do have to say that you are definitely a faithful blogging friend - and I love that! Thanks for sharing your thoughts...and don't stop blogging. ;)

For Love of Home said...

My two cents~ you are incredibly funny, real, intelligent, and have a very interesting family that you can find the humor in and are able to put all of this into words for us to laugh at until we pee our pants. (Can I say that in blog land?)
Keep up the good work
Cindy
P.S. you got me to laugh lately when even I thought I couldn't.

Tot's Mom said...

I know how hard you work because I do see your comments everywhere. And after being a regular visitor here, I think you do put in a lot of effort in your posts that make them interesting to readers. So, if you now have a wide following, then I say "You deserved it!" Keep posting!

LaskiGal said...

I've visited your blog several times and enjoy it! I haven't been blogging for long, but isn't it about creating a network of people, I'll even venture to say FRIENDS, who share similar interests, ideas, or just people with whom you love to share stories?

I read blog after blog (it is so easy to get caught up--and although time consuming, I love it!) every day and make comments on sites for the sole purpose of getting to know more people--to reach out. What's so wrong with that!?! Obviously you've touched a lot of people and that is AWESOME!

KUDOS to you!

kimmy said...

YEAH - we have another thing in common! I am a HUGE Sawyer fan!

Have a good night!

Kimmy

My Goodness said...

Good for you, getting that off your chest!!

You are a good read, a good laugh and a good encourager.

You are loved!!

Mango Marie said...

I've only been blogging since October and Kellan...you were one of the first visitors to my site. Thank you for being such a good friend...now, go buy that lace bra!

Leanne said...

Wow. Those must have been some e-mails. You do a good job, and I like coming here. If anyone else comes along and questions your success just send them over my way and I'll beat them up for ya. :)

Angie said...

On days when I get a Kellan comment, I get more excited. I know it takes a long time to read a lot of blogs. I think every day I add 2 or so to my google reader. I curse and thank heaven for google reader every day. curse because it puts all my blogs in one easy spot. Curse because it makes it that much easier to read more blogs. I read blogs not really to generate traffic (though it is a nice bonus) since my blog was created more for my own enjoyment and information flow about my hubby, but for inspiration and entertainment. However, I had no idea how much I would get wrapped up in my virtual world. I feel connected to so many people I have never met. I can totally now understand how people meet and date online. I never got it before.

I am glad for your success and hope you NEVER feel a need to explain yourself again. I like reading the Upside at the end. I love the twists. I am a sucker for all things with a twist!
KEEP BELIEVING

slouching mom said...

Seriously? I'm sorry that you're experiencing others' jealousy... It strikes me that you're incredibly loyal and generous with your time and comments.

pb&j in a bowl said...

Numero Uno: I love your blog.
Numero Dos: I love that you devote so much time reading and commenting on others' blogs.
Numero Tres: Anybody says differently, you send 'em to me

Keep up the good work!

Sharon said...

Girl--bless you!
This land of blogdom can be rough.
Everyone has their own reason for blogging. Don't ever feel like you need to apologize for that reason.
A blog is work--you are right.
If that work bring you and us JOY--go for it.
I come here for some light reading.
And I leave with a lighter heart. Most of the bloggers I blog with are serious. So sometimes I come here for a breath of silly air-or laughing gas.
I have enjoyed meeting you. Don't know if I found you or you found me--but it has been fun.
And if your fingers ever run out of energy to make it over to me--I'll still just enjoy reading. I did some slimming down on sites I visit during the beginning of the new year--your stayed just because sometimes I just need a little Kellan.

Maria said...

I love reading your blog, too. This is definitely not your typical blog, but I even enjoyed seeing this side of you. I love your funny stories, and I can relate because our kids are close in age. Thanks for doing a great job. BTW, I KNOW you must spend a lot of time doing this, because I know how much time I spend.A lot!

multipleblessings said...

I can't believe anyone would get after you, just because your blog is successful! That's just nuts! I would have said pretty much what you said, just in more basic terms... You are popular because you're blog is amusing, and fun to read and because you're so faithful in returning the visits.

Take care!
Julie

Karen MEG said...

I'm really surprised that you would have any negative feedback, but I suppose the world can be a not so nice place, and people all have their own motivations and opinions. You've never been anything but sweet, hilarious and thoughtful on your blog. And you certainly are so very loyal. The quality of your writing goes without saying.
I look forward to your posts and your comments because you just keep coming back to little ole me... and I hate to say I told you so, but I knew the traffic would come in spades.... so I TOLD YOU SO :)
Hugs and love to you,
karen

carrie said...

I am so sorry that you've experienced ANY sort of negativity here (in the blogsphere). You are right, you came and got me and I stayed (like a stray puppy). But I am very certain that I would have found you eventually as I have read your sincere and thoughtful comments on my favorite blogs, so you just never know.

Please don't feel like you have to explain your success. People who criticze are probably just envious. Ignore them.

Keep writing your stories Kellan, you are a wonderful story-teller! :)

Amy said...

I have always seen you as a friendly fellow blogger. Your stories and you style never cease to entertain me. I know that your following is not by accident. I know that it is because of the care and time you invest into the blogging world. Thank you for your visits, comments and stories.

Lizzy in the Burbs said...

Kellan,

You have nothing to "explain" as far as I'm concerned. Anyone can see from the time and care you take to personally answer some 80 odd comments daily what kind of character you have. You are one of the most talented writers I have personally come across, blogging or otherwise. I could seriously see you writing an article in a magazine or a newspaper on a regular basis, or a book of your own. I'm sorry that you were made to feel that way, but I honestly can't imagine anyone who regularly visits you having a bad opinion of you or your blog. I think it has to be sour grapes, and that's too bad for that person because they are missing out on having a great friend. Keep doing what you're doing as long as you feel you want to. We're behind you 100 percent!

Lizzy

Eileen said...

Why on earth would anyone be negative about your blog? Blogging is not about numbers or who gets the most. I don't know what happened that prompted you to have to explain yourself, but I am so sorry that it did. Your a wonderful person. Your kindness and the way you care about others practically jumps off the screen. On top of that, your blog is always a place to go to get a smile. Your honest, write very well and tell a great story. Everything a blog is suppose to be. I for one, think your great, and I say keep doing, what you have been doing. Don't let anyone get you down or get in your way. It is their issue, not yours.
XOXOXO

JCK said...

Kellan, frankly I am shocked that anyone would question why you have such a popular blog. It is obvious. You are a great storyteller and you are a lovely, gracious community blogger friend. We are all lucky to have you in our blogging world. I'm ready for the next story! :)

And yes, isn't blogging rewarding, fun and fulfilling! Who would have guessed? Probably us...

Goodnight, friend.

Bavani said...

Just to add to all the above comments, I love your blog and look forward to reading it everyday - more than once even. But I must admit, I am one of those culprits who doesn't always leave a comment.
Your stories put a smile on my face and I'm sure on many other faces :)
There will always be people out there who will bring you down when you are successful in whatever you do - believe in your genuine and kind nature - AND JUST IGNORE THEM.

Barrie said...

Thank you for all the smiles. And congrats on your many blogging awards!

bermudabluez said...

I am behind you 100% Kellan. Do NOT listen to the negative comments. I make it a point to visit your blog because many a day...you MAKE my day. LOVE your blog! Seriously....you get into it what you put into it. If only everyone would understand that. If you are enjoying your blog, and your readership reflects that...keep on doing what you are doing! You have a gift, my dear!!Hugs!!

Family Adventure said...

Oh wow, Kellan, I am not sure what brought this on...but I for one am so, so sorry if you have been hurt by something or someone. I can honestly say that you are the most amazingly dedicated blogger I know. I think I spend a lot of time visiting blogs, but I am sure you spend much more than I do. Because you have almost always commented on the sites that I comment on before me. With four kids and pets and whatnot in your household, I don't know how you find the time in the day to do your commenting...PLUS post a daily post of brilliant humour. It floors me.

Nobody has a rip-roaring hysterically funny life all the time. And for you to be able to see the upside even in frustrating situations is a huge talent. You spread joy everywhere, Kellan.

I am honoured to know you, to be called a friend by you. And so pleased to have been here from the start.

Big hugs to you, my friend. There's many of us out here who love you!

Heidi

Amy said...

I think that was very well stated and that you got your point across. So sorry you had to do it and that your frustrated...I am glad I found you and enjoy reading your stories!!

kim-d said...

Kellan! Hey girlie! I was feeling so uninspired yesterday that, even though I read all the blogs that I usually read, I didn't do much commenting. I remember thinking, though, that nobody--and I mean nobody--deserves any and all blogger awards more than you. And how fortunate I feel to have you as a blogger friend. That being said, I was shocked to come here this morning and read this post. I'm afraid this is going to be a long(-er than my usual long) comment, but I must say it, so here goes.

As Heidi said, I'm not sure who or what brought this on, but it makes me sad that you had to explain yourself. Whoever or whatever it was, it is their problem and not yours. Okay, I am biased. I love you; I love your blog. I love your format, I love your layout, I love the way you write, I love your family, I love that you share your family and your moments with us. I think you are an incredibly giving and caring person. And that, in my opinion, is why your blog is popular, you are popular, and you are "the first read of each day" for many people--present company included. Aside from your own blog, you are an encouraging, loyal, loving commenter on my blog, as well as others. You are a person who, daily, makes me glad that I blog. And I think I would love you just as much--well, yeah, probably more--if I ever met you in person. You have a natural generosity of spirit, Kellan, that just shines through ALL THE TIME. Any success that you have in any and all areas of your life makes me just all sorts of happy!

Jealousy is a strange thing. In my opinion, if one is happy with themselves and their own life then jealousy is not something that comes up. So, you can see how it definitely isn't your problem, right?

You, my dear friend, just keep on keeping on, however you want. Always, always, always here for ya!

Mary Alice said...

It is interesting to me, as a psych student, how people try to tear down anyone who becomes successful. It doesn't seem to matter how they have become successful; through talent, determination, hard work, or through shear luck, it seems that anyone who achieves some measure of success will have certain people try to pull them down in an attempt to re-equalize. You see it in all types of situations. This has happened recently to my son, after he discovered he was good high jumper. Instead of being happy for him, some people tore him down. Interesting.

Anyway - I just wanted to say what I like about you is that you are so positive. Your posts look at the positive sides of things and the comments you leave for others are so warm an encouraging. I think THAT is exactly what the world needs more of. Keep on keeping on, my friend.

Queeny said...

Keep doing what works for you. I really enjoy your blog.

Beth said...

Keep up the good work, Kellan! I enjoy reading your posts every day!

Susan said...

I think it is awesome that you get this many comments and it is awesome that you read all of them . I have enjoyed reading the comments as much as the posts.

By the way I wanted to let you know you are more loyal than some of my friends who I see everyday.

Thanks for letting us look into your life like you do.

Toni said...

Kellan-

Jealous people suck.

Not that I'm not jealous of your success; I am. But I don't resent you for it. I applaud you for it. I wish I could make the time and effort to devote to it and finding and retaining friends that you have.

Ignore the naysayers. I think you're doing great and so do many, many others!

suchsimplepleasures said...

i think that you are doing an amazing job here!! you don't owe anyone any explanation!!! how awesome that you get as many comments as you do!!! i'm striving for that, too! because, i too visit, sometimes, hundreds of sites in a day. i'm made some close-ish friendships along the way...and some casual friendships but...the whole thing is...about how blogging makes you feel. and, if it's a positive energy and a creative outlet...who cares what anyone else thinks...just think, blogging could be the next anti-oxidant!!!
but, you are awesome, your blog...awesome! you always repay a comment...and that's awesome!!!
and, that's why you have as many visitors as you do!!
xoxo

Kari & Kijsa said...

Kellan,

We believe in you...you are incredibly talented and your stories make us smile...we love your perspective...keep up the wonderful work!

smiles, kari and kijsa

THETHINKINGSQUARE said...

Wow you are a great blogger. I find it hard just to keep up with the 2 or 3 blogs I visit on a regular basis.

Lisa said...

I like you simply for being you! :o)

Karen said...

I love you AND your blog. Thanks for being a faithful bloggy friend. Love ya!

P.S. Have you ever thought of writing for a magazine or newspaper? Of course, you may already do that and I just don't know.

Patti said...

I love your wit and wisdom and yes the fact that you visited me as well led me to want to reciprocate. Ignore the haters Kellan.

ToolSmartz said...

Kellan - all the great ones have to deal with jealousy.
2 options:
1)ignore them and keep on keepin on...
or
2)post their contact information and let us beat them up.
:)

Enjoy what you do and never look back.

The Stevens Family said...

Kellan,

Those people are obviously jealous in a bad way. I'm jealous too but I don't take it out on you! Haha. I found you, you didn't find me and I was so surprised when you commented back and have continued to do so since. Not too many people are like that especially when they have such a following, but you make it a point and I appreciate it. You are a great bloggy friend and you better not just quit blogging on account of the naysayers! Have a wonderful day.

The Stevens Family said...

Oh yeah and also all the reasons you listed as to why you think you are successful are absolutely right. Everything you listed is exactly why I read you.

Amanda said...

I really love visiting your blog daily for exactly all the reasons that you have listed on why you have so many visitors. I also totally appreciate you taking the time to leave comments on my (very much less popular) blog.

Kelly said...

I do not know how anyone could ever have a negative thing to say about you. I think you are the most supportive, kind, funny, and generous woman on the blog playground. I am always so honored when you come and view my site. I wish I had as much tact and good sense as you do. I come here for all those reasons and because your stories make me giggle endlessly. And who doesn't need a kind word, the hug of an internet friend, and lots of laughs.
Keep Blogging Away, Sista-friend.
Love ya!

Bren said...

I've always said that I love your stories. You, my friend, are the real deal!! Anyone who doesn't get that is blind!

I have something for you over at my blog!

Don Mills Diva said...

Thank you so much for writing this. I am shocked that people have been acting less than thrilled for you.

We are kind of in the same boat. I have only been blogging 5 months and have gained quite a large and loyal readership and a lot of people have asked me how.

Just like you I have WORKED MY ASS OFF. I polish and polish everything I write. I visit 100s of site (I have 100 in my feeder and I make sure I try and keep up with all of them) and I return the comment for EVERYONE who is kind enough to leave something for me. It is A TON of work but it is massively rewarding and like you, I feel I have earned the success I have achieved to a certain extent.

You are a wonderful writer and a sweet woman who always has a thoughtful comment for everyone. You should be VERY proud of what you have done with this site.

KEEP IT UP!

Kami said...

Oh Kellan, I would have to say anyone who would say those types of things to you must a tab bit jealous. The truth is that you have to do all that you do to have a successful blog and you also have to be extremely talented.

YOU are the most loyal blogger and you share the love daily to so many people. It only seems fitting that so many share it right back at ya!

I love your style and your unique way of telling the stories. Keep it up, please, there are 69 of us here already begging!

You deserve all the success you have had and so much more!

Courtney said...

Last comment I promise, but there is something at my blog for you, don't be mad!

Kathryn said...

You deserve every bit of success that you have. You have worked your tush off for it. I know how hard it is to get a following going. It is time consuming, and a lot of work.
You have the readers you do for all of the reasons you listed. But you have me as a reader because I love your writing. There is a kindness, a wisdom, and humor in your writing. You tell great stories. I like that you don't run down a list of things you have done in a day. And yet, we can tell what your day was like because of your story. It is brilliant.
I'm sorry you have been frustrated. I struggle with that at times too. Wondering if people are coming to my blog strictly because I was at theirs, or if they really get something out of what I wrote.
I really get something out of what you write. I value your writing.
Thank you, Kellan!

Catizhere said...

I think you've finally "Made It"! When people start hatin' on you simply because you've got a great blog & a bajillion commenters. You've almost achieve "Dooce-Status".

I absolutely love the way you write & your support & words of kindness on my blog have meant so, so much to me.
You keep on doing what you do, Kellan.

Laurie M. said...

It was your comment on my blog that brought me to yours. It is your amazing sense of humor that brings me back on a daily basis. I love your blog; it reminds me that life is meant to be enjoyed!

wheelsonthebus said...

FIrst, I want to make it very, very clear that I would never read your blog if you had perfect children.

Second, I just don't know how you read and comment as much as you do. I read about 100 blogs and it is killing me.

TD said...

i love reading your blog! Your stories are great! And perfect is overrated!!!?!?!! I also love the "upside" you put on your post. It reminds me to always look for the upside in any situation! Thanks

Heather said...

I am sorry you were feeling frustrated. Know, please, that I am one of those new bloggers in 2007 who found your blog and loved it, and am happy for your success but am more happy just to share in your life.

Joanna said...

So sorry you've taken some grief. I love your stories, I love the snarky things your kids say, I love your upbeat take on things.
You have worked HARD so don't apologize. I appreciate your hard work! Keep at it!

bren j. said...

You know it's interesting. Just last night, my Husband and I were talking about you and how much I like your blog and how much laughter I enjoy courtesy of your blog. In particular, we were talking about birthrights and Little Billy's plans for a mansion....Maybe YOU could build the mansion and he'd be satisfied with the pool house?

Thanks for visiting my blog as often as you do - it makes me feel all important-like when the popular girls visit. :) Keep up the funny stories coming!

Stacie said...

Kellan
You had me at Hello.

Mo said...

Kellan, you do a wonderful job with your blog and supporting your friends, and anyone that says anything negative about you should be ashamed. You are one of my FOUR readers, and you never fail to leave me a sweet, encouraging comment...and I appreciate that more than I can express in words. Don't change..at all...you are perfect the way you are!

Steph said...

I am a new reader to your blog and I love it you are very professional in your writing and you do really take the time to respond to those that post comments on your blog. Your blog success is something I strive for but I am very new to this so I know it will take some time thanks you for some insight on how to help me grow!

Melanie said...

I love your blog for 2 reasons. First you are an excellent writer with a funny spin on life. Second- you always visit me and leave me a comment too. Who could ask for anything more?

Amy said...

Having only just found you recenty and the fact that you come and visit me and leave such nice comments is AWESOME!! I LOVE your stories, your writing, your blog! You're an amazing woman and I look forward to your site everyday!

Cindy Swanson said...

Wow Kellan...what a wonderfully informative post! I have often wondered the secret to some successful blogs, and you really laid it out. Yep, you definitely have an appealing blog and great content, but interaction with other bloggers is key! Thanks so much for this post...and I hope you'll visit my blog when you get a moment!

girlymom said...

Where is Kellan?? I need my Kellan fix as much as I need a cup of coffee to open my eyes every day- ok, well I guess if it came down to it, I don't need the coffee. Hope all is well :)

And to whoever disturbed the Queen Bee, better watch out, she has a very loyal hive. I'm just saying...be nice!

Queen of My Domain said...

Kellan I know you must spend tons more time blogging than I do. Your graphics are always cute and go with your stories. And I love how positive you are when I see you leaving comments on other people's blogs. But it's your writing that I really enjoy. So I hope you realize after reading these comments, how many of us enjoy you and your blog. You have every right to be proud of what you have here because we all know it takes more work than people realize.

the dragonfly said...

It's so hard to comment on all the blogs I read...actually, it's so hard to keep up with reading them all! But I do my best. And it's rewarding when I comment on a blog and the blogger returns the favor!

:)

One Scrappy Gal said...

For me, blogging is a way to keep my friends and family updated on the (when I can get on) daily goings ons in my life, how the children are doing, how the pregnancy is progressing, etc.

It's also a wonderful place to vent since it's almost always just me and the kids and sometimes I need to vent. I express myself better through writing.

Lastly, it's a great place to find new people you have lots in common with, to read about their lives and their experiences, and know that you are not alone.

You do entertain me and I enjoy reading your blog. Anyone else that is bitter and jealous of your success can bleep bleep and bleeping bleep bleep...

Rima said...

Hi Kellan. I just recently started reading you, and it quickly became obvious to how much time and love you have invested in blogging, posting quality posts daily and stopping by all your commenters sites. Anyone who goes that extra mile the way you do deserves every comment they get, so keep on keepin' on!

Laura said...

I think most came to my blog, at first, for the "watching a train wreck" aspect of it. The ones who have stayed are the ones who have cared. Who look beyond just reading a nightmare of a story and find the very real people underneath. I also like to think the walk away more grateful for the lives they have...no matter how mundane they may seem.

onthegomom said...

I love your blog!!! {{{HUGS!!!}}} No need to change a thing, just keep being YOU!

Andrea said...

I can't even remember how I came across your site...but I remember that shortly after I did, YOU started stumbling across a lot of the people on MY blog-roll.

I was surprised -- and impressed -- that you took the time to do that. You are now a faithful reader and commenter on not only my page, but my friends' too.

Your effort in blessing people does not go un-noticed, my friend.

Leah said...

Kellan, I'm one of those "happened upon you by accident" people and I fell instantly in love with your site and commented as much (or something along those lines). The very next day, you'd commented on my blog as well, and I look forward to seeing what you'll say each day. I KNOW you'll come. You're absolutely right about that!!! I'm so sorry anyone made you second-guess anything here. You write fabulous stories and put such a funny spin on things. I really appreciate your humor and ALL that stuff. HUGS to you, and kudos to you for building such a successful site!!!!!

Irene said...

I think you are a wonderful blog friend to so many people. You remind me of the type of person who everyone likes because they are so kind and make such an effort towards EVERYONE.

I see your posts everywhere, and I always admire your hard work. You offer kind words to so many people every day, and I am sure they all appreciate it so much.

Your blog is a very happy place to visit. Not only because your stories are so cute and often hilarious, but because every commenter knows that you actually read the comments and make an incredible effort to visit other blogs. I have found some great blogs, but as many times as I have commented, I have yet to get any feedback. Not that I expect a reply from everyone, but sometimes it just nice to know your comments were heard.

Take care!!!

Pam said...

Wow! I hope I wasn't one of the people that left you feeling frustrated...I know I once made a comment about the number of comments you get. Only because I was intimidated and thought someone with so many comments and who was such a good writer wouldn't find my crazy blog to be of worth. If I did contribute to you feeling these things--then I truly apologize! I have loved the glimpses into your life and I find you to be a wonderful writer. You are very loyal and friendly and I'm so glad you stopped by my little blog. I hope you are not made to feel this way again any time soon!!

R Family of 4 said...

You have no idea how much I enjoy reading your blog. I always leave either having had a good laugh or contemplating things in my own life.

You have no idea how much I appreciate your support/advice and comments at r family of 4. I have been blogging for 2 years and just recently started recieving comments outside of my family or friends. Up until recently I really didn't know any differently. But thanks to you and a few others my bloggers eyes have been opened and I too have gone out there in search of readers. It really is a nice feeling.

I dont know how you do it Kellan, keeping up with so many blogs but you are certianly right you deserve it. Every single visitor, every single comment you deserve them all.

Thanks agian.

Nicki said...

Job well done, Kellan! I consider myself fortunate to be able to read your blog everyday. Thank you for your writing and your perspectives. I am so happy for you and you well-deserved success! Keep it up.

Pam in Colorado said...

Kellan, I just found your site through Lisa at Kentucky, 0h my, I forgot the rest of her blog name, she has changed a few times and now I'm confused - well, I'm usually on the confused side! ;) Sorry Lisa!

Anyway, I have never been able to figure out why others do not smile at your success, not the other way around. I know I'll be back to read more and get to know you better.

Your hard work has paid off here, as well as, has blessed many others. Keep on spreading your love and sharing your stories.

Come on over and visit me whenever you get a moment, meet my family (well sort of, I am photo deficient and have not been as diligent as I used to be in posting due to a new site I created for those in grief).

Any hoo, stop by
www.pamsponderings.blogspot.com
and/or
www.SteppingThroughGrief.com

There are many hurting people out there, I'm glad that you have brightened the day of many of them.

Suzanne said...

Kellan,

I'm so glad to have been one of those people you found and brought to your site. It is one of the brightest spots on my miles-long blog trail -- you deserve every bit of your success!

Shireen Loh said...

Oh Kellan, really you didn't have to explain yourself at all. People can be a tad bit insecure, jealous, curious, clueless or just plain I-want-to-have-what-she's-having without realising that friendship is a lot of hard work, loyalty and dedication. One that you can't take for granted of. There are just no short-cuts. I admire you for your deep passion to make this blog a success and admire your continuous support that you give to your friends/readers. And of course your thought process through your blog. Keep up the good work, Kellan. You are certainly an inspiration, even for me who is half-way across the world. Take care

HRH said...

Hey girl, I have no idea how this started, but I am really glad you wrote that. Yeah for you. I love when you stop by my site and say hi. So whoever prompted this needs to get a real life.

Shannon said...

Kellan,
I know I am relatively new to the whole blogging world and to yours especially but I am shocked that anyone would have ill-will toward you. I see how many people come to your blog and you have popped into mine and left the sweetest words for me. I was shocked that you took the time and that told me why you have the following that you do. Your kindness and willingness to support others combined with your super witty writing make you a dream blogger. Keep it up and never let negativity drag you down!

Julie said...

Well, I just wanted to comment on your blog. Yea, we women are really territorial. We want to have all the attention and when we see others getting it and we are not....well somehow we let it speak to us of our value.

I am new to the blogging world. My heart in blogging is to share my God sightings in hopes that others might be drawn to see Him in a new and fresh light. I spent most of my life living as a "religious woman". I would have made a good Pharisee. God has opened my eyes and restored me to my place as His daughter. I have seen His Father's heart in ways I could not fathom. That is why I blog.

It's hard to find people and have them find you. For me I just want to encourage but no one knows I'm here. It's easy to just want to give up and forget it all. I mean what's the point if no one even knows you are there. That takes me back to why and who I am writing for. Am I blogging to get attention or to make myself available?

It all goes back to where I am placing my value.
Is it in what I do...in how many people respond to me, in whether people like what I have written OR in God and what He thinks about me?

I am sorry that some have struggled with the green beast of envy and treated you out of that. I think it is awesome that God has gifted you and is allowing you to share you unique picture of Him.

You go girl!

Blessings,
Julie

Victoria said...

I'm so sorry that your feelings have been hurt by someone or something they said. Your blog is a wonderful reflection of you, obviously. And you have worked (remarkably) hard to build your readership and your blog friends. I know there are days I don't get to you, but I know that you'll always be there with a good story or interesting tidbit.

You. Rock.

Angela said...

I'm not good with words right now so I'll keep it simple.

You've always seemed totally genuine. I love reading your blog because its funny but even more becasue its written by this person who comes over frequently to visit and leaves really nice comments. You do work hard to build relationships and I think you've succeeded with this.

I'm so sorry if anyone has questioned your motives, that probably hurts.

But you're a hard worker and sweet as can be. And I'm grateful that you stopped by and shared your comment with me so that I could come over and learn about what a fabulous person you are.

mommy (gina) said...

Kellan- I know how hard it is to "grow" a blog- it's why i gave up my second one. :) You have created a unique format, which gives your readers a fresh experience when we visit here- it's your hook, but not the heart and soul of your blog- that is in your stories. You found the time to reach out to me, even when I shut down my blog, THAT is true kindness. As long as you are committed to this blog- I AM ROOTIN' for YOUR SUCCESS. There will always be haters. On the upside: No one would be hating/jealous whatever if you weren't on to something. YOU ARE!!! :) LOVE GINA

Anna said...

Oh! Mean people suck, Kellan! You have a great blog, and a great heart. You can see from the 107 comments before mine that you are LOVED in the blogging world. Keep doing what makes *you* happy!

angie said...

Oh boy. Just returned from vacation and saw this post. Sad, sad commentary. Keep up the great work. I know I appreciate the recriprical blog visits.

Jennifer said...

I'm late to see this (because I am not as good at keeping up with my blog reading as you!) but, it sounds like you've had some harsh words directed your way? I'm so sorry to hear that. Rotten. I hope you're feeling better now that I am Comment No. 110 telling you to let it roll off of your back: you rock and we all know it. :)

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