Tuesday, February 26, 2008

Monkey See ... Monkey Do

Proof I try to set the best example for my children.

I am not always the one these kids should be looking to for guidance - really - but, I do the best I can.

I keep my house clean.

I keep our clothes clean.

I stand up straight and listen when I am spoken to.

I chew with my mouth shut.

I eat all the food on my plate.

I take off muddy shoes at the door.

I do my best.


The other day, I heard Alexis, talking to her cousin in the upstairs hallway of our house.

Alexis says, "When you get older ... you can color your hair any color you want."

My niece says, "I know," in her, don't-act-like-you're-the-only-one-that-knows-everything kind of voice.

Alexis ignored this snippy response, like I have taught her, and proceeded to say, "When I get older ... I'm going to color my hair pink."

My niece, still acting like she is following this conversation says, "Well ... that is just rid-ic-ulous."

Alexis, finding this snippy comment a bit more than she was prepared to just ignore, says, "You're rid-ic-ulous," in her I'm-going-to-have-pink-hair-if-I-want-to kind of voice.

My niece, tiring of this rid-ic-ulous discussion, turns and walks away, but then swings back around and says, "Well ... I've never seen any real person ... with pink hair. You can't have pink hair!"


Alexis, running after her cousin and almost in tears, screams, "I CAN HAVE PINK HAIR IF I WANT TO HAVE PINK HAIR!" at the top of her six year old lungs.


I am standing at the bottom of the stairs, looking up, and Alexis sees me.

She bows her head and shuffles her feet. She says, "Well ... I can," in a very tiny voice.


On the upside ... I just smiled up at her and shook my head and said, "Yes you can." And then I said, "And ... you can also go and apologize to your cousin for screaming like a crazy person," and she did.

Honestly, I don't know who this child has been watching, where she believes it necessary to SCREAM sometimes at the top of her lungs to get her point across ...........

Oh, now I remember ......... that would be ME!

90 comments:

Jenn @ Juggling Life said...

Thank goodness it was you. I thought she might have gotten it from me!

dlyn said...

Too funny Kellan - they watch us way too much, don't they?

HRH said...

Yep, that has happened to me. Very funny. My favorite posts of your are the ones where you talk about yourself with with a bit of kids thrown in! What fun.

Hillary said...

Pink hair! Sweet! I want pink hair too.

Becky said...

You just made my day, finding out that I'm not the only one this sort of thing happens to! Whew!

Angie said...

I think perhaps she may have been listening to mom...

...at the drive through
...in Walmart's parking lot
...when she sees a bug in the kitchen
...when she sees her celebrity match up...

Little sponges, aren't they. I hate when I hear my imperfections come out of the mouths of my babes. UGLY!

KEEP BELIEVING

tommie said...

Scary sometimes, isn't it. I was hollaring just this evening....I had to go ask for a "do over"!

Are You Serious! said...

Very funny! I see my kids do stuff that I do all the time... :)

missy said...

Yep, I'm a screamer too. My daughter seems to be picking up the loud gene, too, dagnabbit. What can ya do? You know, besides try to do better ourselves because really, that'd be too much to ask. ;)

multipleblessings said...

*sigh* ... How many times have I seen the kids do something they realy shouldn't... And known is was ME they learned it from. *blush*

Julie

Leanne said...

Monkey see, monkey do. If I don't yell sometimes though, I'll explode! That would not be pretty.

LunaNik said...

She was in the car during your drive-thru window ordeal, wasn't she?? Heh...you taught her well.

pb&j in a bowl said...

Boy, oh boy, I can relate to this post. Maddie told me that I really needed to work on my yelling, and that's she's tired of hearing it. She's 4. Ugh.

Jen said...

I think I might be a little less rid-ic-ulous if I screamed at people once in awhile and got it off my chest. heh heh heh.

Take care,
Jen

The Boyds Family said...

Can they actually hear you if you aren't yelling?? LOL!

Seriously...I am working on yelling less - pray that I am successful! It's a huge challenge but I'm trying.

justabeachkat said...

Sometimes yelling us the only way!

Great post!

Hugs!
Kat

Amy said...

Oh dang! I guess that means mine get it from me? I have to yell, otherwise they don't hear me!

Eagles' Wings said...

Ha. Ha. Sounds all too familiar.

tricki_nicki said...

Wait, she's six and wants pink hair!? I bet you're hoping that idea wears off! So funny.

TheVasquez3 said...

HILARIOUS!!! oh these two and their conversations....awesome!

and you with your yelling...HUMAN!

jennifer h said...

And I thought maybe you all had been watching a live feed of my house.

I'm guilty, too.

Dad said...

What can I say ! !

JO-N said...

I was wondering why my children raise their voice too. Hmm...

bermudabluez said...

GUILTY! My daughter picked it up from me too.....oh well. What's a mom to do??

JCK said...

That Alexis is just too darling for words. Pink hair indeed.

kim-d said...

Yes, she CAN have pink hair if she wants! And I also think it is written in the "How to Be A 6-Year-Old" manual that screaming like a crazy person is the best way to get a point across. Or, maybe she just TOTALLY got it from you! HAHA!

Family Adventure said...

She'll be the cutest pink-haired girl around!

Heidi :)

baby~amore' said...

yep it is me too ...what can I say - Ditto !
Yes Alexis will be so pretty in pink because she can !

Jacki said...

Yesterday I was reminded of how much Emma watches us and copies us. She was looking at a Pilates video my sister has given me an she said that we could do the exercise together. I told her no, I don't like to exercise and she said:

"How do you know? You haven't tried it."

Busted! That is what she hears from us all the time!

TheCynicalOptimist said...

pink... I could live with pink. She's got spunk!

LaShawn said...

Some of the traits I find the most offensive in my kids are those that remind me of myself. It is amazing!

*I scream like a crazy person sometimes too*

Melanie said...

It is funny because I already see Hailey, at 16 months, trying to copy everything we do. It's kind of overwhelming really- to think that she watches every little thing I do. Including my occasional yelling :(

Meg said...

Too funny Kellan. I too was guilty of screaming some when mine were growing up. Once they hit the teenage years they just ....TUNED me out! El Jefe had to point that out to me before I realized that once I started screaming no one listened, lol! I love reading your stories!

Brittany said...

Hair coloring- what would we do without it? ha ha ha. I've been doing mine since I was 16. Such an addiction. haha.

Amanda said...

I think pink hair will be cute :)

I'll have to remember not to scream too. Anyway, it seems like Aaron responds better to quieter but more menacing sounding voices....

Sharon Brumfield said...

Seems like I remember a very wise woman telling me--"do as I say not as I do".;) Yes, Mom was always right!

Bia said...

It seems to me I remember some screaming at your local Dairy Queen (smile, wink)!

God bless.

Wonderful World of Weiners said...

You, the almight Kellan, screams? I just don't believe it. You are the closest to SUPER MOM/PERFECT MOM I've ever seen!

(there could be SOOOOO many things worse than pink hair!)

Hallie :)

Irene said...

Yeah, I just love it when I am about to reprimand my 6 yo for something she is saying (yelling) at her sister when I realized that I am hearing my voice coming out of her mouth. Oops.

Melek said...

hahaha...love it. i'm SURE i NEVER had this type of conversation with my sister. no screaming, EVER. ha!

and funny enough, my sister did end up dyeing her hair Pink (and purple, platinum, red, black, orange, etc) when she got older.

Val Cox said...

ahh, that's so funny, very cute!

Courtney said...

I love this story. That is my crazy house too.

Amy said...

you don't strike me as a yeller or a screamer!

have a great day!

Abbie said...

hahaha TOO cute!

on a side note: it unnerves me a bit that the monkey in your picture appears to have bigger boobies than I do. Now, thats not saying much, if you've seen me, but I'm just sayin'....

Toni said...

Love it! That is such a great age!

onthegomom said...

Oh I have been known the yell a few times here and there. hehe.

My daughter and her cousin are so cute together, too. They are both 10 and I love that they have each other.

Steph said...

Kellan,

That is so cute. I remember doing something like that to my Mom and when I called her on it she made something up about why it was ok for her and not me. I thin all kids do that and all parents do it also.

Steph

Kathryn said...

Oh Kellan. You are too funny. That sounds like my house too.

Patti said...

Please tell Alexis if I could get away with it at my job I would totally have Pink Hair too. In fact I have a pink beehive wig I wear just to make myself smile.

I TRY not to scream too but.... we all fall short sometimes Kellan. Sometimes you have to scream to get your point across. Same goes for cussing.

carrie said...

Oh, I have NO IDEA where my daughter learned to scream either!

Cute story Kellan! :)

Karen said...

She sure can have pink hair. And obviously she can scream if she wants to. Esp. when she's driving. ;)

Janice said...

My little sister has had pink, purple and even blue at one point. she is also a hair stylist.

i would never scream at the top of my lungs here at my house.... ;)

katy said...

What you don't realize is that in a few years that pink look may cause you some trouble. It isn't as cute when a 13 year old wants pink hair, and something on their face pierced.
One morning when my son was about 15 he woke up early and sprayed his hair straight up on top of his head. When I got ready to take them to school and he came out of his bedroom I told him he had to wash all that gook out of his hair, He made the mistake of saying " why, it's MY hair." Before I could get my reply out his dad yelled out from the bedroom "wash it yourself or I will hold you upside down and wash it for you in the toilet." Remember that in a few years.

katy said...

What you don't realize is that in a few years that pink look may cause you some trouble. It isn't as cute when a 13 year old wants pink hair, and something on their face pierced.
One morning when my son was about 15 he woke up early and sprayed his hair straight up on top of his head. When I got ready to take them to school and he came out of his bedroom I told him he had to wash all that gook out of his hair, He made the mistake of saying " why, it's MY hair." Before I could get my reply out his dad yelled out from the bedroom "wash it yourself or I will hold you upside down and wash it for you in the toilet." Remember that in a few years.

justabeachkat said...

Hi there!

I've tagged you for a fun meme! Can't wait to see what you come up with. It's easy and fun...really!

Hugs!
Kat

Summer said...

HAHAHAHA!
I've always wanted to dye my hair purple. Since I was 14. I still want to, some day...

Mighty Morphin' Mama said...

Oh my, 'I don't know who that child has been watching...'
Isn't it wonderful when we hear ourselves come out of our children's mouths. Unfortunately for me, not usually!

Melissa said...

It's hard to be the role model, huh? :)

Mary Alice said...

I would have trouble NOT screaming if my child actually did come home with pink hair!

Leah said...

we saw a very real person with pink hair at Dairy Queen when Emily was a whopping 2.5 years old and she instantly insisted she wanted pink hair, too, and when we nicely told her NO, because pink hair is for GROWN-UPS, she burst into sobbing tears and we ended up having to leave. I know kids aren't supposed to remember things from when they were 2.5, but anytime she sees DQ, she launches into this bit about, "Remember when I saw that girl with pink hair and I wanted my hair to be pink?" and we SIGH and say YES we do remember (she'll never let us forget!)

And sometimes you have to scream to get your point across. My three children have taught me that. I can talk nicely and politely until I'm blue in the face, but they don't react until I raise my voice. WHY IS THAT????

HUGS Kellan. You've set a fabulous example for your childen, and IF there's every an less-than-fabulous examples set, you can just congratulate yourself on creating a teaching moment for them on what you could have done differently. LOL It all works out!

Amy said...

Maybe if I had pink hair I wouldn't have to scream at my children. I think they would notice me when I am talking if I had pink hair.

Kami said...

Oh I do hate it when my kids have to mimic my poor behaviour. Somehow it just seems so much worse when they do it.

It is worse when they do it, right?

No?

Oh.

*hangs head in shame*

:-)

Kelli said...

I am glad I am not the only one that looses it "sometimes" hehe. Love our blog.

Joanna said...

What's worse is when they point at me when asked where did they hear that from.

Lizzy in the Burbs said...

I just love your little Alexis! She's a girl with a mind of her own, and if she wants pink hair someday, I believe she'll have it! Isn't it funny how at even the age of 6 girls talk to each other with that "tone", too cute!

Lizzy

OHmommy said...

Nice one! Great title for it too... they are always watching us.

Heather said...

Luke would have SCREAMED, followed by a punch. Jack is the most calm and serene child and Luke is as aggressive as they come. Sometimes I wish I could just balance them out.

Jen said...

HA! I'm suprised she didn't say, "But, Mommy, you scream all the time!" I tell you, yesterday I needed to scream at someone, and I didn't, and this morning, I was even angrier than yesterday. Sometimes I guess it is good to get it out!

Steph said...

At least we all know that we're in good company. This is something that I am working on. Sometimes NOT screaming works better.... sometimes. :)

Karen said...

Scary, isn't it? When our own words and actions come back to haunt us?? lol

I've always wanted pink hair.

Queen of My Domain said...

To funny..pink hair. At least she doesn't want a nose ring.

Regina said...

Well at least you are not in denial, since you know she gets it from you! Admittance is the first step!

Carl & Kathy Heppner said...

Well, regardless of her yelling, I'm glad that she learned from you that she can do whatever she wants. She's independent and has a mind of her own. Good for Alexis!

joan said...

Too funny Kellan! What's wrong with pink hair???? LOL That's too cute. Hope you are having a great week.

Holly said...

And here I thought she got the idea of the pink hair from you! I figured you must have done that in a previous life or something! My bad. ;)

Dawn said...

I remember having these kinds of conversations with my sister when I was little. I told her that she couldn't have a rainbow car and it turned into quite th argument. Cute story.

TD said...

It funny how sometimes you dont realize what you do until your kids turn around and do it!

Pam said...

She was just defending her rights to free speech, the right to bear arms, and the right to have pink hair! ;) What a girl! Love it!

Cindy said...

My daughter used to say, "Why are you screaming at me?" I'd answer,
"Because YOU ARE MAKING ME!"

I am 47 and never have died my hair. I went to the parlor yesterday and the hairdresser exclaimed that I have virgin hair!
WHAT? She never sees adults that haven't dyed their hair. Go figure!

kimmy said...

That kind of sounds like me too! You are not alone Kellan :)

Kimmy

Amy said...

So cute! um the only volume we have here is screaming...so I know where they all get it...LOL

Angela said...

I think that is great. I think I will die mine purple

imbeingheldhostage said...

I am sure this had nothing to do with mimicking you-- it's from tv. I am positive you've never shouted in their presence. And, tell her when she's older, she can move to the UK and blend in with all of the 40-somethings and their pink or purple hair. It's kinda cool actually.

bren j. said...

We've taken pictures of some of the fantastic birthmarks on the back of the Little Goat's head - just in case she ever thinks of shaving it when she's older.
I think my Husband had pink hair once. Or maybe purple. Oi.

Is it just me or does the monkey in that picture need a bra? :)

the dragonfly said...

Of course she can! But it's good that she apologized for the screaming.. :)

Goldberry said...

My five year old screams at her little sister all the time. I hate that I see myself in her. And I don't care to change my ways. Grrrrr.

Don Mills Diva said...

I was gonna say she might have gotten it from me!

girlymom said...

My daughter told me the other day she always knows when I am really mad because my eyebrows go way down... someday I may need botox for that! :)

Stacie said...

Crazy sometimes these kids come up with the weirdest things...screaming *eye roll*

*teehee*

Tammy said...

Oh, too funny! My youngest daughter would love to have PINK hair, too. :)

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