Thursday, August 14, 2008

And ... All This Time I Thought We Were Bonding

It's not often I have alone time with my teenage girls.


Often, they are on the same schedules - doing the same stuff.


I go to their basketball games - they are both there.


I go to their softball games - they are both there.


I take them to church - there they both sit next to each other - at my side.


I go into their room - there they are - together.


Lately, though - I have had the unique opportunity to spend some alone time with each of my 16 year old daughters.


Why, you might ask?


Well ...


Because I am the one teaching them to ...


DRIVE!


I take one out to drive ...


Leave the other one home to watch the younger kids.


It's been kind of nice ...


Aside from the occasional moments of panic that prompt me to SCREAM or SQUEAL in fear for my life and then therefore might bring on a few moments of bickering between the teenage driver and the frightened - obnoxiously nervous mother!


It's been nice.


We talk.


Well ...


I talk.


We run errands.


Might as well get a few errands out of the way while we are out on the road.


One day, we were out - Courtney and I - driving.


We stopped by the mall to pick up a wedding gift at Dillards.


As we were getting out of the van, I heard Courtney - getting out of the driver's side door, say ... "Crap - I forgot my phone," she had a sour look on her face.


As we started off across the parking lot - her grumbling and mumbling behind me - I heard her say, under her breath, "I guess that means I'll have to talk to - you."



On the upside ... Okay --- so maybe it's just me enjoying this one-on-one time (*sigh*).

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65 comments:

Hillary said...

hee hee! you never fail to make me laugh! typical teenagers! (am I allowed to say something like that when I was a teenager only 5 years ago?!?!)

Rachel said...

Silly Mommy :-)
Kellan, that's just too cute.
They will look back on this time with fond memories, it just may take a while.

tammy said...

Big (*sigh*)! I hate that they grow up and we go from being so smart/funny/beautiful to a
knows-nothing/boring/okay-looking mom.

The Fritz Facts said...

The one-on-one time is wonderful...the teenage personality not so much. I am dreading this...only 7 more years until she turns into one.

Brenda said...

It's great you have a good relationship with your girls. It's so precious when you can have real conversations with them. My girls wouldn't talk to me, I was old and stupid,, my son, on the other hand, would tell me EVERYTHING. I finally told him one day, in desperation, there are some things a mother does not want to know!

Ann(ie) said...

HAAAAAAAA! I love your posts. And this one gently reminds me what I must have put my own mother through!!

dani said...

kellan, i'm sure that was just a little dry humor on her part... she didn't mean it at all;)
love,
dani (tee-hee)

Kathy and Carl said...

Driving Lessons?! You brave woman, but you have a good perspective, you can hopefully get some good bonding in!

Michelle said...

Kellen, as long as you're enjoying it, that's really all that matters. Really. Someday they'll appreciate it, too.

And umm wow. I'm SO not going to be the one teaching the wee ones to drive. They'll be biking to the Metra station down the road and taking the train where they want to unless my dear husband steps in!

Jenn @ Juggling Life said...

Someday they'll look back on it as fondly as you do now.

Are You Serious! said...

♥ I remember going on drives with my mom while learning! We much rather prefered her over my dad!!! :)

JCK said...

It sounds like special time, Kellan. Definitely for you. And probably for her, too. She just doesn't know it yet! ;)

Leah said...

I'll bet she enjoys it far more than realizes!

Becky said...

LOL!

I'm convinced that the first 16 years of childhood (per kid) are spent trying to get the kid to adulthood in one piece...and the last couple of years trying to stay alive yourself while teaching the kids to drive.

Crazy Daisy said...

cute. You look on these things always makes me chuckle to myself! I love the positive ... :)

Darla said...

Oh your kids are darling! And, I'm sure she didn't mean anything bad by it...just didn't think about how it sounded! :)

the dragonfly said...

Aww...

Isn't that just 16, though? I remember saying things like that to my mom (although I certainly didn't have a cell phone then!!), and now my mom is one of my best friends.

On a side note, when I was learning I always drove with my mom. The thought of driving with my dad frightened me more than spiders, ladders, and horror movies all at the same time.

My brother felt the same way, four years later he drove with Mom too. :)

Tabitha said...

That one on one time sounds great!!
I am sure that your girls did enjoy it too!
love and hugs XXXX

kim-d said...

You are a brave soul, Kellan. My Mom would not ever let me drive, even if I would have talked to her, which I wouldn't have--HA! Isn't it nice to know that your girls are totally normal 16-year-olds? Give 'em 10 years; it'll be great!

Have a wonderful day, Kellan Renee!

Nancy said...

I still like when one of my (grown) kids are in my car ... I consider it a "captured audience" ... and I take the long road =)

Ellyn said...

You are a brave woman. I think my husband will be teaching out kids. He is a little more mellow. I will leave nail marks in the dash. Not so good for resale.
Great story.

Tara said...

I hope she was joking... Enjoy your time together!

Amy said...

She definitely enjoys the time alone "talking" to you; they can just never admit that aloud to anyone. I think my boys swore an oath somewhere when Shannon and I weren't looking.

Have you seen the television comedy show on TBS called "The Bill Engvall Show?" It is so funny! But anyway, the other day we saw the episode of the parents teaching the son to drive.
It's called "Dream Lover."
If you ever get a chance to see it, you will love it.
The teenage daughter says that her mom is a "screamer and a repeater" when it comes to driving lessons. The teenage son didn't know what she meant, so she gave him an example by imitating the mom in the passenger seat.

"hit the break. Hit The Break. HIT THE BREAK!" ;)

Sally said...

Before you can turn around good, they'll both be telling you more than you ever wanted to know! hahaha

Rebecca said...

I'm cracking up, I just did a One on One post too. Totally different because no one is driving around here. I bet the girls will look back on those driving lessons and remember how much they enjoyed it. They just can't tell YOU that :) Have a great day!

Kaci said...

Awhhh Kellan!! That's funny though! :)

Jacki said...

Wow, she's beautiful! (I am assuming that's your daughter in the picture).

suz said...

Too funny. Yes, teenagers are a breed of their own.

Courtney said...

She didn't mean it and you are bonding.

Courtney, tell your mother you didn't mean it and you are sorry!

Melissa said...

LOL! Oh, the horror!! ;)

Sandra Carvalho said...

you're such a great mom!
Thank God for that!
xoxoxo

Donna said...

She'll grow out of it!hahahahaha...hughugs

Monogram Queen said...

No she didn't say that! LOL Bratty teens! You are a good Momma teaching them to drive, that will be Stacy's job!

Janet said...

Oh, you're bonding. She just doesn't know it yet. And she won't appreciate it until she's older. She won't appreciate it fully until she has her own kids.

Belle said...

I know how you feel!

Elaine A. said...

I always say "boys will be boys" but I think here the phrase "teens will be teens" applies... ; )

She's a pretty girl Kellan!

Kami said...

She will look back on it fondly...but not until she's at least 25.

:)

Amanda said...

So true, so true! I'm sure they were listening to something since I'm sure they weren't on the phone while driving. Oh, well!

My boys are Army Brats said...

I wonder what my teen years had been like if I had a cell phone. I'm pretty sure I wouldn't have much of a relationship with my parents at all if I had the means to talk to my friends all day instead!

Amanda said...

I hope the lessons go well. I love spending time with my twins. One at a time!

Rosemary Bogdan said...

LOL. I bet she actually really likes the one on one time with you. (You know, she has to save face) I've done this student driver thing so many times. I think on Friday my number four child will get his actual license. Does make me nervous though. It's been at least a few weeks of driving with him since I squealed.

Pregnantly Plump said...

Aw. She probably really is enjoying the one-on-one time. I got my grandmother to go driving with me when I was learning once. We drove for more than an hour and talked and talked. I neglected to mention until we got back to her house that I didn't have a permit yet! Glad we didn't get pulled over.

Helen E.M. Wright said...

She'll look back on it and love it!

If not...who cares!??!?! you're enjoying yourself, right?!? ;)

ALF said...

She'll appreciate it down the road - guaranteed.

One Scrappy Chicklet said...

They enjoy it too, but it would not be cool to admit it.



Hugz

Jennifer said...

thank you for preparing me for teenage years with twin daughters. lol :)

she sure is cute!! :)

i'm glad you are getting some one on one time with them... and really i'm sure they appreciate it too. :)

xoxoxox

Julie said...

Secretly, they are enjoying it... But they just don't want to admit it. *lol*

Cheri @ Blog This Mom! said...

Ah! You gave me flashbacks to another time period, and another Courtney!

XOXOXOXO!

joan said...

You made me remember when my son went to a private school about a 1/2 hour away and I would have to take him and we would have some nice talks. I really enjoyed my alone time with just him. This was before everyone had cell phones. Thanks for sharing Kellan.

Andrea said...

Oh, that Courtney -- what a HOOT!!

Karen said...

That's a riot!

utmomof5 said...

Ahh the joys of raising teenagers :)

Marmarbug said...

Oh my! You tell her that in MY day we didn't have cell phones and that we didn't get to chat on the phone while in the car with our parents! LOL

truth said...

Hilarious! (Probably because it's happened to me too many times.)

MamaGeek said...

I gotta tell you, you handle it all so gracefully. I fear I'd be a wreck (literally and figuratively).

You're a hoot!

DYSFUNCTIONAL MOM said...

I'm teaching my 15 year old to drive and it's taking years off of my life!
It's so hard for them, at this age, to accept that there's something that WE know more about than THEY do, isn't it?

Heather said...

I love the movie Clueless when the character Cher is driving and trying to get her license. "Cher, you just ran a stop sign." "I totally paused!"

Denise Wheeler said...

Oh, maybe you shouldn't post anymore about teaching 16 year old girls how to drive. We(I) are getting ready to start teaching our 16 year old daughter how to drive. I am very nervous about that!

Kelsey said...

Aww Kids are are just too funny!

mamajil said...

Oh and yet another heart warming moment with teens...yep I can relate I had one of these myself today! At some point they will totally enjoy alone time with mom again! :)

Joanna said...

Ouch.

(Closes eyes and prays) Rapture! One, two, three jump! (Opens eyes) still here. *sigh*

bichonpawz said...

Oh yeah...I remember those special one on one driving experiences. I still cherish the memories! Good for you Mom!

katy said...

One day they will tell their children about their mother teaching them to drive. They may remember those comments with a little embarrassment later but rest assured....they will get it back from their own children.

Wendi said...

Maybe you should make that a requirement.
No cell phones in the car while learning to drive.
It will be a "forced" alone time with Mom....but hey...quality time nonetheless.

girlytwins said...

I'm sure they enjoy it as much as you do :) I love they way you can find humor in the everyday occurances. You always put a smile on my face :)

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