Thursday, September 11, 2008

If You Love Something ... Set It Free



When they were little ...




They clung on my every word.


They followed behind me like ducklings in the path of their mother.


They searched me out.


They cried my name.


They ran across entire rooms to climb onto my lap ...



Kiss my face ...


Share giggles and tickles and hugs.


Then ...


They were nowhere to be found.


Their footsteps were no longer behind me ...


But ...


Far out in front of me.


The words I spoke ...


Began to fall on deaf ears.


The hugs were seldom.


The kisses gone.


The giggles became laughter - but ...


Only amongst their friends.


My little girls ...


They grew up.


They pulled away.


They found their spaces and places and it was not ...


Near me.


But ...


In recent days ...

They have come back.


I don't know why.


I don't know for how long.


But ...


We are talking - more.


We are hugging - more.


They laugh at my jokes and smile from across the room.


They walk beside me instead of way out in front.


They ask my opinion.


They search me out.


They crawl up on my bed and ...


We talk.


When they were little they said ...


"I never want to leave you - I want to live here with you - forever."


I always knew that those words would not hold true.


But ...


I loved those words.


I had hoped they would be true.


I'm glad they are back ...






At least ...


For now.

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61 comments:

Joanna said...

Sniff! That's so sweet.

Keeping y'all in my prayers!

4funboys said...

ahhhhhhhhhhh...

every parents wish

DYSFUNCTIONAL MOM said...

Smart girls, already realizing Mom and Dad aren't as dumb and embarassing as they once thought! lol

Amanda said...

They'll always be close to you. Just in a different way from when they were little girls.

I just had a lovely time putting my son to sleep. He insisted on kissing me on my nose, ears, cheeks, everywhere over and over again. I could see that he really enjoyed my presence and that I was everything to him. I'm glad I was able to remind myself then that these are precious moments and to really relish each second of it.

After reading your post, I know that one day, I'll probably feel the same way you feel and only hope that my son will 'fly away' but still return occasionally.

Ellyn said...

I hope it lasts a long time, forever even.

Brenda said...

Beautiful!

One Scrappy Chicklet said...

Wonder pictures. Christopher once told me he would live with me forever and then he joined the Army. They grow up before we know it.


Hugz,
Tami

duchess said...

That's what happens when smart girls grow up.
I pray that my daughter & I will be close like that one day.

Enjoy the girl talk.

You're not in Ike's path are you?
Hope not.

Monogram Queen said...

Oh that will be a sad, sad day when Maddie pulls away from me but I know it will happen.. eventually. Enjoy every minute with your darling girls Kellan!

Kathryn said...

Aww. This is just so sweet. And all a mother can hope for.
*sniff, sniff*

Dawn said...

Oh, that's so great to read about! Have a wonderful day Kellan.

Courtney said...

Taylor always tells me she is going to live with me forever, her, her husband, and her kids. I know she won't, but it makes me happy to know she has that much love for me right now.

Aleta said...

What a beautiful post. I remember when I was that little girl... and remember pulling away from my parents... and now, in my late 30s (and for some time now), I appreciate and love my parents more than words can say.

Children have to feel that sense of distance in order to "find their own" but they will hopefully come to realize that family IS their own.

Kel said...

Awe...yes it is nice to hear they 'want to stay forever' - sad because we know the day will come when they spread their wings and fly, but it's also a little bitter sweet, because I know that when that day comes, I have done my job as a mother and given them the tools to stand on their own two feet. What I've worked their entire life for...their own life.
~K

Good N Crazy said...

I keep telling my 10yrold. Make all your decisions now, because at 16 you'll be just a little crazy and you won't be able to hear your mama. She rolls her eyes at me. It's already starting...

Kaci said...

Where's my tissues!!??!

Amanda said...

Such a touching story! I know you will charish every moment, no matter what!

Tanja said...

That's when you know you've done something right! They are sweet, beautiful girls just expanding their wings.

Janet said...

Sorry can't stop. Busy sobbing into my keyboard.

Stacie said...

i think them pulling away is only a sign of a GREAT mother, so relish in the moments knowing that you have done your job and you have done it well!

dani said...

dear kellan:)
thank goodness for the second part of that old cliche, huh!!!
"If you love something, Set it free... If it comes back, it's yours, If it doesn't, it never was yours...." given we already know they were originally were OURS:D
love,
dani

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Don Mills Diva said...

Enjoy your beautiful girls while you can Kellan...

Kelly said...

That makes me sad to think about. My 9 year old isn't quite as cuddly anymore, doesn't want affection in public, wants his independence and it's makes me sad. Like your girls, I hope there comes a point where we are closer again. I always worry what the teen years will be like with my boys and I hope we are always close and can talk about things.

Jenn @ Juggling Life said...

You must be doing something right.

forgetfulone said...

They are beautiful young women, and you are very fortunate, as I'm sure you know.

Bia said...

I'm in the process of letting my youngest go...to preschool, that is. It's not easy for either of us.

But I understand about your girls...I have two older sons that go through the same thing of pulling away, and yet always coming back.

And I will always be here, waiting.

Blessings.

Jyl @ MommyGossip said...

This is soooo true! I am thinking of it from a daughter's and a sister's perspective, because my kids are so young. I am leaving today for a sister's vacation for 3 days. It is our first one with all 4 girls together. We are sooooo excited. I remember the days when we were younger and we couldn't stand being together, fought round the clock, complained that "she" didn't clean the room enough or whatever. Now, we die for the moments we can be together. Family trumps all, right?

Thanks for the beautiful post!

Jen said...

This post made me cry! I worry that having a boy, we won't be as close as some moms are with their daughters when they grow up. I can only do my best to form a lasting relationship and let him know that I'll always be there for him. I hope your closeness with your girls continues!

Leah said...

oh sure, make me cry already! My sweet little Emily cries at night (here and there) and tells me she never wants to leave me and wants to live here forever. I keep telling her she can live here as long as she wants, but that she won't want to forever. Then she'll add that she hopes one of our neighbors moves away so she can buy their house and live right NEXT to me. and you know what? I hope she does, somehow! I can't stand the idea of her growing up and pulling away from me... sigh...

AirmanMom said...

Beautiful words!
Don't blink, they are grown before you know it.

~AirmanMom returning to her blog...

tammy said...

So sweet Kellan! This post brought tears to my eyes because I can't stand to think of my babies leaving.

Jonny's Mommy said...

They will come back more and more. You'll see. I've seen it happen more and more with my friends as they go to their moms for advice and hugs and cuddles, etc. I know I have with my mom...although we've always been close.

thirtysomething said...

Full circle, eh?
Glad to know they will come back around...
Have a great day!

Julie said...

I am SO not looking forward to the day when the chicks leave the nest. *sigh*

Amanda said...

I want my boys to stay little and with me forever!

Tabitha said...

Ah Kellan ~ that is so sweet ~ glad that your girls and you are still 'together'!!
love and hugs XXXXX

Sandra Carvalho said...

Great post!
Beautiful!
xoxo

Laura said...

What a great and lovely post. No matter how often the skirt away, they will be back - Thank you for sharing such a heart filled post.

Ellie said...

that is so sveet!!!

sveet is the result of me trying to type an accent.....

Michelle said...

Awwww... so compelling. And it is one of the few posts/stories about older kids that actually provides hope rather than striking fear in my heart!

JenniBeanV said...

You almost post the most lovely things...

Kimmy said...

What a beautiful post to your girls. You have a wonderful way with words Kellan!

Kimmy

bermudabluez said...

Enjoy it while you can, Kellan! And I'm thinking of you and your family....be safe during the storms!!!

TheCynicalOptimist said...

Oh I think it's just gooid timjes from here on out. There is nothing like mothers and daughters! You have many years of shopping and cooking and laughing together!

MamaGeek said...

This was heartwarming and I too hope it lasts forever Kellan! I have to say my Mom is by far now my best friend and when I was a teen she was definitely NOT.

Betsy said...

stinking pregnancy hormones... I am crying now! I don't want my babies to grow up :(

Megryansmom said...

I'm crying because my babies are all grown and gone. Thank goodness for grandkids or I'd be a real basket case.

Smiling Shelly said...

That's sweet Kellan! Very Sweet. They're growing up.

Darla said...

I just blogged about this in my last post. I've always been very close to my oldest dtr but she, already at a pretty early age, started pulling away from me a little in public. Didn't quite dare to trust my opinion TOO much, especially on fashion sense, etc. Now, suddenly, she is starting to respect my opinions more, she's wearing my clothes and shoes every once in a while, and she kinda likes to hang out with me...especially loves to go shopping with me. :) Well, I guess that's probably cause I have a wallet that's a bit beefier than hers and there's always hope she can connive something out of me! :)

Dad said...

Kel, sometimes your blogs bring tears to my eye's. Reminds me of three other children (who are now fine adults)

Threeundertwo said...

I have my fingers in my ears and I'm singing LaLaLa very loudly

because I don't want mine to ever grow up. It's all happening too fast.

So nice to hear they come back. This post touched my heart.

Elaine A. said...

The rollercoaster that IS motherhood... What a sweet post Kellan.

Jaina said...

If it helps, that's what happened with me and my mom. And the best part? We're the best of friends now. We started making that bridge between parent-child and mother-daughter friendship when I went away to college. I absolutely love it. I'm on the phone with my mom nearly every day. There was one day when she and my dad switched phones, and I kept forgetting to call my dad's phone to get her. By about the 5th time I'd called that day, my dad laughingly asked, "do you two really talk this much". The answer? Yes.
It gets even better Kellan, just wait. You're going to love it. :)

Shannon said...

There's a knot in my stomach when I read this for I know that this will someday happen to me and I am saddened by it. My husband is so sweet and when I talk of the boys and them in the future he reminds me that we wish for our children to grow up and to develop their personalities and eventually go to college and move on. As sad as this may seem he is so right!
Kellen...I talk to my mom almost 3 times each day. Sometimes I call to just say...Hey, whatcha do'n...nothing more. I just want to know where she is standing in the house, what's for lunch. Silly...I Know! 600 miles apart:( The girls will need you again someday! Embrace this moment!

Andrea said...

That was beautiful, Kellan! So sweet!

Bren said...

Just the other day, my almost 7 year old told me she wanted to live with me forever. I smiled and hugged her and wished it could be so. *sigh*

Lovely post, Kellan! A great reminder to savor every moment.

SabrinaT said...

OK, I am half way down the page and can not stop smiling. Maybe one day you and the kids can eat cucumber sandwiches on mars!

Jennifer said...

i'm all teary. my little girls are still that... little. and sometimes i'm aggravated by them always needing me to hold them and pick them up when i'm trying to get things done or running late or whatever it is... but thank you very much for putting this all into prospective for me... soon they will be tweens then teens and then grown up and leaving me... i need to breath in every moment and hold it there it won't last for too long. :(

let them be little. :)

thanks. i need to be put in place every now and then.

i'm off to sign out and go hug up my girls!! :)

xoxoxox

girlytwins said...

Awe! Love this post.

Juju said...

you
just never know what they will do next, huh?
I can just imagine the look on your face:)

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